When Your Child Is Aggressive And Hurts Others

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My day was packed and busy. Deadlines at work were upon me, and even if I was exhausted, the stress I was experiencing was the “good” kind. I was being productive and being in my element made me happy. My son was doing well in daycare and hubby was fulfilled at work. I mean, everything was going great for our family. Or so I thought.

Mrs. Smith, director of the daycare center where I bring little Mikey, rang my phone. I furrowed my eyebrows in surprise which then turned into fear in a split second. Is something wrong with Little Mikey??? Why is Mrs. Smith calling me? I had to excuse myself from the team meeting and went out the conference room.

“Hello, Ms. Taylor. I’m sorry for calling you at work. I know you’re busy, but this is important.” Mrs. Smith said. My heart beat faster than before. There is something wrong with my son. And why is she so calm? Is this the peaceful moment before the storm?

“Everything ok, Mrs. Smith? Is Mikey ok?” I asked in a panic.

“Mikey is fine. I’m sorry for making you worry. But there was an incident.” She said.

“What incident? What do you mean?” That was my reply.

“Mikey was involved in an altercation with another boy. It was on CCTV, he initiated aggressiveness and punched the other child.” She said sadly.

“Oh, my good lord! Is the other boy ok?” I asked with tears slowly forming in my eyes.

“Yes, yes he is. Just a bit shook up. I called because we need to talk about this in my office. Are you free now?” Mrs. Smith said.

I didn’t say I’m busy. How could I when my son’s behavior was unusual and appalling? Now, I’m stressed. And it’s not the “good” kind.

As I enter Mrs. Smith’s office, the children were there and so was the mother of the other boy. She looked pissed, and of course, I understand her fully. I waited for Mrs. Smith to facilitate and start the meeting.

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She started with “Kids can be very heavy-handed or that their acts can be too aggressive while they play. While it’s not their intention to hurt playmates, sometimes, it can happen. They would hit other kids, slap them, pinch, scratch, poke, bite, pull girls hair, kick while playing and shoving. At times, there is punching and knocking down. It doesn’t mean the other child is bad or a bully, but we need to curb this behavior because we want them to grow up as loving, caring and responsible adults.”

“I am so sorry for my son’s behavior and action,” I told the boy’s mother.

“Rest assured that this will not happen again and that I will bring Mikey to a therapist.” This time, I turned to Mrs. Smith. I said that because I can’t find an available center for Mikey at short notice and if his action would merit suspension from the center, my schedule would be compromised. But of course, the underlying issue here is for Mikey to learn that violence is never a solution to anything.

After I said all of that, the mother of the other child seems appeased, and she said that it was child’s play and can be let go. She left with her child, and Mrs. Smith told me to stay.

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“Ms. Taylor, I’m an OT or an occupational therapist. I’m not saying that Mikey is a naughty boy. He’s just a boy who’s curious and experimenting. But we need to focus on this and recondition his mind. We have to instill in him that hurting other is not good. DO NOT HIT. HITTING OTHERS WILL HURT THEM, AND IT’S A BAD THING TO DO. Every time he does that, we supplement with these words.” Mrs. Smith said.

“If Mikey continues with this behavior and we don’t teach him what’s right and wrong, he will grow up to be a bully. We cannot ignore this, and we also have to monitor his acts. Are we on the same page with this? I want to help Mikey.”

“I agree.” That was all I could say.

And so, I book an appointment with a child therapist to see what’s up with Mikey. I also took time off from work because I want my son to feel that I am “there” for him. Money is nothing compared to my son. If he grows up to be a young offender because I didn’t take the time to help him while he was young, then, it’s my fault.

When Your Child Learns To Cheat And Lie

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“Wow, that looks good on you.” I complimented my 18-year-old with her new outfit.

She bought a pair of tattered jeans and a hanging top. They call it “cropped” top now, but back in the eighties when I was a teenager; we called “hanging” blouse back then since you can see the belly button. I smiled a bit as I recalled my “young and free” days. And now I look at my daughter and I see myself in her.

“Did you get a pay bump?” The outfit must have cost her at least $50 bucks, and she only earns $3.50 an hour at the coffee shop where she works. She managed a quick “Uhm” before she stepped out of the house.

I assumed that she’s been working hard to be buying a lot of things for herself lately. Not that I can’t afford to buy her stuff, but I always teach all my children the value of money, perseverance and hard work. It makes me proud to see her like this – empowered, independent, and responsible. I feel a little accomplished because that’s my child. She’s partly the way she is because I raised her to be such. Little did I know what was happening right under my nose, and I never in a million years taught it is possible.

Lying, Cheating, and Stealing – What’s the difference? NONE.

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Her teacher called me at home and asked if we could meet at a local coffee shop. This can’t be good, I said to myself. Why did she want to meet with me away from school? What is going on here? I asked her what the meeting was all about and she just said – it’s about your daughter. With a lot of questions going on my mind, I agreed to meet with her an hour later.

She started with “I caught Tina cheating, but I didn’t report her to the school administrator because it will jeopardize her college application at NYU.” My heart dropped and literally, my face was white.

“Come again?” I heard her right, but I wanted to be sure if she was telling me the truth or not. Is she for real?

“I said Tina, your daughter, cheated. Well, technically, she did.” My daughter’s teacher said again.

“What happened?” I asked.

Apparently, the reason why my daughter has a lot of extra cash is that she’s been selling term papers, book reports, and other requirements like that for other students. It is illegal and could merit her expulsion from the school. I was so lost and confused from what I heard.

“But as I said, I didn’t push through. I’d hate for this mistake to define Tina when I know she is a very promising young girl.” I could kiss her teacher right now and hug her real tight. All I could manage at that coffee shop was a firm grip on her hand and countless “thank-you.”

It is rare to get an opportunity to redeem yourself, especially in cases like this.

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“I do ask for something, as sort of community service, though. If Tina agrees to help me this summer and tutor underprivileged kids in our center, I will consider this as her “punishment.” Not reporting this to the school authorities puts me at risk, as well, but this can devastate Tina’s future, and I can’t that do that to her. One mistake must not define who we are as a person. I want to give her a chance.” When she said that, I just burst out crying. She comforted me, and after an hour of rambling, we parted ways.

When I reached home, my daughter was there, and the look on her face said it all.

“You could have destroyed your future for a lousy $200, Ti. What was going on your mind? I didn’t teach you to behave this way.” I told her.

“I am so sorry, mom.” My daughter said.

“Tell that to yourself. I’m not the one who was close to losing her future for $200.” And then, I went to my room.

I had a very long talk with my husband about what happened to Tina that night, and we confronted her the next day. We both decided that she must make amends, return all the money she got from her side business, and assist her teacher in the community thing. She’s also grounded. I don’t know when it will be lifted, for now. We also booked an appointment with a family therapist where we can all effectively communicate our inner feelings and thoughts.

With all my heart and soul, I hope it’s not too late for my daughter. I wish for her to learn the lesson. In life, there are no shortcuts. It’s never ok to cheat, lie, or steal.

The Avoidant Personality Disorder: Know The Basics

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I usually feel tense or nervous. I feel awkward or out of place in social situations. I won’t get involved with people until I’m certain they like me. I worry a lot that people may not like me. A lot of things seem dangerous to me that don’t bother most people. I keep to myself even when there are other people around.

If these realizations have been bothering you, then maybe you have avoidant personality disorder.

The World Health Organization marked three distinctive characteristics of a person with avoidant personality disorder (AVPD). This includes feelings of tension and apprehension, insecurity, and inferiority.

Persons with this psychiatric condition are often associated with having social anxiety and dependent personality disorder. As the name suggests, they have difficulty in socializing with other people because of the fear of getting ridiculed, criticized or put into an embarrassing situation. At the same time, they also desire to form a relationship with another person because of dependency needs.

What is like living with AVPD?

Marie, 20 years old, has been living with her boyfriend Jake for 6 months now but with Marie’s AVPD, Jake is already on the verge of giving up. Jake recounts that its very difficult to understand her at times. “We tried to talk her concerns and issues but she would take it as shaming or rejection. This is getting so tiring already.”

With AVPD, persons tend to focus on a single concern while ignoring priorities. They are pre-occupied with self-loathing and self-victimization issues. They perceive everything that is going on around them are directed to their existence. That’s why they avoid going to parties or large group gathering because they have this constant perception that they are socially inept. Some AVPD individuals have a hard time forming or maintaining a healthy and lasting relationship because of the passive-aggressive behaviors. Their partners need to have longer patience, awareness, and understanding about their condition in order to help them.

If the AVDP person is working, it can be very hard for them to stay on the job. They are easily disappointed and can get into trouble with other employees because of wrongful interpretations of issues, inability to handle stress in the work setting, and even inability to provide productive work.

Cause of AVPD

Just like any mental health condition, personality disorders do not only take one causal factor to make it happen. There is an interplay of several factors that contributed to the development of AVPD. Psychologists and psychiatrists believed that it has something to do with social, environmental land psychological upbringing. These are called trigger factors to a predetermined genetic and biologic individual who is at risk to develop AVPD. When a child is raised in an environment where he or she is constantly humiliated or criticized, there is a big possibility that their personalities can be altered and then constructed to have all the features of AVDP in later life. Statistically, the condition accounts for 2-6% of the general population and is equally present in both genders.

Treatment options

The good news about personality disorders is that they are treatable. In the case of Marie and Jake, they are willing to mend and make things work for them. They are undergoing a series of therapies to help them both go through this. Aside from doing research online about websites that provide therapy services, Marie is also attending an individual therapy session to focus the interventions to herself. The goal of the therapy is to help the person verbalize their concerns about communicating with other people, confront those worries directly, helping them find the right resources or methods to allay their fears, helping them with stress management, and slowly introducing them to the social circle until they become more comfortable with social gatherings and in dealing with criticism.

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With regards to medications, they can be given with antidepressants and anxiolytics to help control depression and lower down anxiety levels.

Bottom line is, the earlier the condition is managed the better. The complications of AVPD leans toward substance abuse and addiction in the later stages as the condition continues to paralyze the person in the social dimension.

 

How to Deal with a Troubled Teen

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When children reach the adolescent stage, they are prone to self-destructive behaviors as they become more desperate to show that they are in control by acting like they know everything despite their lack of experience. Their desire to fit in provokes them to do the unthinkable just to gain approval from their peers. During this stage is where they need the guidance of their parents the most.

Tips to Handle Troubled Teens

Keep your cool

Teenagers show rebellion by breaking the rules, getting failing grades at school, and being angry over simple things. These are just a few examples of how they try to push your buttons to get a negative reaction from you. As parents, it is critical to keep calm and deal with the situation using good judgment. Getting mad at them or giving them harsh punishments can only exacerbate the situation, keep in mind that they do all of these things because they need attention, love, and understanding.

Relate to them

At some point in your life, you probably had experiences that are similar to what they are facing at the moment. It can help if you share your own struggles and how you overcome it. Letting them know that what they are going through is normal and that you empathize with them makes you an ally. Be their friend instead of their critic, the more you try to connect with them the more you gain their trust.

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Watch out for the warning signs

Showing disobedience with house rules is typical but when your teenager starts experimenting with alcohol, engaging into fights or isolating themselves from people it may be time to seek for help because it can be an indication of a more serious problem that can lead to depression or addiction; which in some cases might require contacting a mental health expert. Always be observant and do not disregard the cues as “part of their transition to the adolescent stage”.

Lend your ears

Being too busy to listen to what your child has to say can give them the impression that you do not care about them at all. Hence, they distance themselves from you and try to resolve their own issues on their own. If you feel that your teenager needs your help, do not hesitate to start a conversation and ask how they are. Always be the first one to hear their problems, act like their best friend so they’ll feel more at east confiding their problems with you.

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Do not restrict their independence

Allow your teenager to make adult decisions as long as they do not get hurt or get in trouble in the process. Let them experience how to figure out things by themselves but always set boundaries so they’ll know when to stop and what not to do. Being too strict or fighting with your child for power will only drive them to become more reckless.

If your teenager is acting weird and you notice that he or she is showing a bad behavior what should you do? This is a tough question to answer especially if you have no experience in dealing with misbehaving teens. Learning ways to show support to your teenager during this episode in their life can help save them from going down the wrong path.

Identity Theft: Methods and How To Prevent

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With the increase of online usage such as online shopping and other bank related online transactions, the world has seen a steady increase of cases of identity theft. One might have seen the news or online articles regarding different horror story of identity theft victims.

According to 2017 Identity Fraud Study done by Javelin Strategy & Research, in 2016, 16 billion dollars were stolen from 15.4 million US consumers compared with 15.3 billion dollars and 13.1 victims in the year 2015.

By definition, identity theft is unlawful and unauthorized access and usage of another person’s identifying information such as name, social security number, credit card information or bank account information for the commission of fraud or other crimes. Thieves are able to access your private information through various ways.

Methods of Identity Theft

The most common methods are through your mail, trash, phishing, conning, skimming, and straightforward theft; however, the methods of retrieving information are endless and constantly evolving.

Sending emails as “legitimate” financial institutions in order to deceive people in putting their passwords and other account information

Inserting a device in the ATM and machines that captures your personal information

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  • Straightforward Theft

This is the smash and grab approach done through stealing wallets, pickpocketing and stealing records from companies.

  • Conning

Criminals would call pretending to be customer service agents of a bank or a retailer company then, they would ask you to give out your information in order to verify your identity.

  • Mail

They steal your mails taking advantage of credit card and bank offers; thus, going on sprees and purchases under your account.

  • Trash

These thieves are called dumpster diver. They gather information through going over your financial statements, old bills then, they utilize this information to open new accounts and assume your identity entirely.

These crooks are not just stealing your money but your identity as a person. They can perform numerous unlawful tasks using your name such as buying things under your name, open new credit cards, steal your tax refund, open gas, electricity or gas account, get medical insurance or even worst, pretend to be you during arrests.

 

It can be prevented

Knowing how these thieves retrieve your information provides the general public the opportunities to put in key measures to hinder the criminals from easily accessing personal data.

  • Shred Documents

Make shredding a habit especially for financial documents and other correspondence before dumping them.

  • Lock your mailbox

Restrict easy access to your mailbox by putting a lock most especially when you go on vacations or out of town. According to Good Housekeeping, 40% of identity thieves sourced their information through going over people’s mail.

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  • Limit offers

Inform your credit card providers by filling up a form online or calling a toll free number to let them know that you prefer not to get pre-approved/prescreened credit offers by mail.

  • Unsolicited Requests

Say “no” whether it’s an unknown call, email or someone showing up at your door asking for personal information. It may be difficult to verify the identity of the person but always keep in mind that reputable companies don’t ask you to provide sensitive information. Verify their offers by directing calling your financial institution. Look for their contact information at the back of your card.

We have seen movies like The Net where identity theft can lead to legal implications and psychological effects to the person such as paranoia, anger issues, depression, and anxiety problems. The only way to protect yourself from these criminals it to always safeguard your digital and personal information.

 

What Goes On in The Mind of a Young Offender?

Teenagers and adolescents are often associated with juvenile delinquency. This is the stage of their lives where they are the most curious about the world. More often than not, teenagers have the time, energy and money (from parents) to explore what curiosity dictates them to. This, however, gives rise to some pressing social problems.

For years, certain types of young people have been regarded as problems of the society due to their violent acts that create disorder and chaos in places. Juvenile delinquents, as they are called. Juvenile delinquency is defined as a crime (violations of the law) committed by young people or minors that is not punishable by death or life imprisonment. This include but is not limited to theft, shoplifting, bullying, gambling, and other criminal activities that result from their antisocial behavior.

 

Risk Factors for the Development of Delinquent Patterns

Antisocial behavior is commonly defined as actions or disruptive acts that harm the well-being of other people. Be it in the form of physical or verbal aggressiveness, this kind of behavior doesn’t recognize authority. Most of the time it is already beyond parental control.

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Typical examples of a juvenile delinquency can be seen from teenagers joining gang fights, cursing at teachers, stealing from backpacks and even as simple doing graffiti and violating dress codes. They resist any authority – be it police officers or even their parents.

Past events mainly influence the development of delinquent patterns and antisocial behavior on the juveniles. These young offenders may have come from a broken family or a disruptive childhood.

Other than experiences, the kind of environment they are in can also be a massive factor for delinquency. They may have been living in a chaotic place. Family and friends whom they always encounter will very much influence the development of aggressive behavior.

 

Juvenile Delinquents and Their Mindsets

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Teenagers and adolescents with a dysfunctional family background feel neglect and lack of attention from their loved ones. Parents and other family members ignore them, so they think that they are free to do whatever they want and go home past the curfew.

The millennial term of YOLO (You Only Live Once) implicitly tells everybody to take risks as you only live and experience things once. Psychiatrists state that these young offenders act impulsively on instinct when confronted with problems and decision-making situations.

Juvenile delinquents are also vulnerable to peer pressure. More often than not, “What the other one does, I’m also doing” somewhat becomes an everyday quote for them. If they can do it, then I can do it. They tend to look at short-term payoffs or instant results and underestimate long-term consequences.

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The above statement results in these young offenders doing irrational things without thoroughly understanding and analyzing them. Whatever gets the job done, then that’s it. Also, they are most likely to ignore and overlook alternative actions.

Experts have long linked teen brains’ immaturity to juvenile delinquency. The teenage brain is still developing and maturing, they argue. Without proper guidance, proper reasoning, logic and sound judgment, they will go nowhere upon the brain’s complete development. Juveniles, after all, are susceptible to what they see, what they observe, and what they feel.

10 Best Ways To Take Care Of Your Child In Case Of Panic Attack

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According to Dr. Bubrich, a clinical psychologist working at the Child Mind Institute, panic attacks involve a sudden outburst of uncomfortable symptoms, including but not limited to, abnormally fast-paced heartbeat, excessive sweating, trembling, dizziness, and nausea. It feels like patients have a heart attack.

As parents, it is one thing to accept that our child experiences this and it is a different thing actually to deal with panic attacks together with your child. Here are 10 of the best ways to care for your child in case of these unwanted attacks:

  1. Pay Attention To The Details

 Once you start seeing the symptoms of a panic attack on your child, pay attention. Do not dismiss it as just another episode, much less think of it as little drama. Anxiety is real, and it is taking a toll on the lives of many people – elders and teenagers alike.

2. Familiarize Yourself With Attacks

If this is not the first time that your child experienced a panic attack, you should already be familiar with his responses. Take note of his symptoms as well as the most immediate cure for the first-aid to be almost second nature to you already.

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3. Be Patient And Supportive

Panic attacks do not have a standard running time. The attack may be quick, or it may take time, depending on your child and the gravity of the trigger. Throughout the entire process, stick by your child’s side and keep comforting him. Never judge too quickly.

4. Be Open About Panic Attacks

Especially when you are living in a home with other people, do not be ashamed that your child may be experiencing panic attacks. It pays to receive support from other people as well – not only your family members but also from the school and medical professionals.

5. Do Not Panic Yourself – Relax

While it is understandable that as a parent, you might be caught in the moment also and not know what to do with your child, do not panic. Your child would need to draw strength and peace from you. Stay calm and talk to your child in a relaxed manner.

6. Practice Breathing Exercises

Induce proper breathing in your child by telling him to breathe in and then breathe out. Do this breathing exercise for several minutes and let your child take his time. You can also hug him or hold his hand or help him mirror your breathing so he can slow down.

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7. Give Assurance To Your Child

Never forget the words of assurance. Tell your kid that everything will be okay, that there’s nothing to worry about, and that things will get better if they believe. Encourage them with positivity and create an atmosphere that rebuilds trust and confidence.

8. Provide Healthy Disruptions

Depending on your child’s coping mechanism, you may introduce distractions that would take your child’s focus away from the trigger of the panic attack. This coping mechanism may be in the form of looking at the greens outside, listening to music, or reading a book.

9. Be Ready With Medication

In case your kid needs to take medications to manage the effects of a panic attack, be ready with these too. For instance, there are antidepressants called Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors which make the body’s alarm system less reactive.

10. Know When To Seek Assistance

While it may be rare, there are still instances when external help might be warranted such as when the panic attack won’t go away even after a long while. Be ready with the contact number of the nearest hospital and ask help from professionals.

As parents, we are here to guide our children through these episodes and vow to support them all the way until they can overcome their anxiety disorder. Be encouraged by the fact that panic attacks always come to an end and they, like any other disorders, can be overcome.

 

The Best Activities In The 2016 Houston Homeschoolers Family Fun Day

The 2016 Houston Homeschoolers Family Fun Day is one of the most amazing events that all families enjoy. Aside from the goal of strengthening each member’s relationship, it allows the unit to meet and connect with different individuals in the community as well. There are lots of activities that aim to achieve personality development, talent enhancements, as well as communication skills.

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The Fun Ideas

The event considers family quality time. That’s the reason why they promote volunteering together as a unit. In this activity, everybody makes the world a better place. Parents and children can share a volunteering activity that they all agree to do. Few suggestions included are nursing home caring, the collection of food for the food bank, the organization of small community-based business expo, community clean-up, and fundraising to support non-profit organizations. Another fun idea of the event is planting.

The joy of contributing something back to nature while taking the good in it gets emphasized. Parents and kids can water and harvest plants. It will not only teach kids to appreciate the value of organic produce, but they will also benefit from the nutrients it gives. There are cooking lessons too. There are also song compositions, dancing activity, movie marathons, and a lot more fun activities where both kids and parents can enjoy. There’s also a suggestion for literature and visual arts. There’s drawing and creating self-portraits projects that enhance creativity.

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The emphasis on the event is not just to showcase what family’s worth is, but also the realization of how homeschooling can be beneficial for them. With this event, parents can understand the importance of time spent with their kids while they are exploring new things. Yes, attending school provides its advantages as well, but homeschooling can pose a more positive on-hand outlook in life.

2016 New Jersey School Mental Health Conference: These Kids Need Treatment, Not Punishment

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The number of young offenders in the country today is increasing exponentially. Reasons for this comes in a variety of factors – lack of parental love and support, no educational influence, peer pressure, and more which are then connected with mental health issues. But as these teens are caught up and brought in the juvenile justice system, something must be done to these detained youths. That is the topic during the 2016 New Jersey School Mental Health Conference.

The American Criminal Justice System, for more than one hundred years now, have always treated these juvenile delinquents with special care. They should be handled as such because they are children with problems. There are at least 70,000 teens below the age of eighteen who are confined at any given moment, waiting for their sentence or is assigned to juvenile system custody. Yes, they’ve done terrible things and has been a menace in the community, but if they had a better childhood – would they be infected by mental health issues which led them to be juvenile? This is the million dollar question.

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In the conference, it was stressed out that reform or treatment (like therapy and other methods) are necessary for these kids instead of punishment. It was discovered in a study done by Linda A. Teplin and her team of Northwestern Juvenile Project in Illinois that juvenile delinquents delivered by the system, at least 67% of these kids are already suffering from a mental health issue. Punishing them will not help their emotional and psychological well-being.

So what must be done to help these “lost” kids? Solitary confinement must be stopped. There are studies which proved that depression and self-harm are prone to these kids, especially those who are confined for an extended period. They must also be provided the mental health treatment that they need because punishing them is not effective at all. They will just get infuriated some more, and their anger is not healthily addressed.

For once, the government has to act on this growing “epidemic.” It must provide the necessary treatment for these kids once and for all; once they are treated and reformed, they have the possibility of leading a normal life far from their past.

 

Family Basics: Practical Tips For Parenting Teenagers

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When a couple decides to start a family, their initial tendency is to read self-help books or attend parenting classes. These resources, after all, are supposed to teach first-time moms and dads how to raise a child. There’s no specific formula on how to become a perfect parent, but they should be able to keep you from committing fewer mistakes.

The thing is, it’s no secret that experts mostly talk about children up to 12 years old. Kids below that age are still heavily dependent on parents, so that’s quite understandable. Nonetheless, people do not call teenagers as young adults for the reason that they need guidance from mom and dad too. Some parents fail to do so; that’s why their children usually end up as juvenile delinquents who fear no one.

Considering you don’t want to see your adolescent kids blossom into responsible adults – and never go behind bars – here are a few practical parenting tips for you.

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  1. Establish Your Role At Home

The first thing you should do is to make your role known in the house. It is too vague to say that you are the mom or the dad, to be honest. Kids can tell which is which based on the gender, but they do not have a predisposed idea of what to expect from you. Thus, you ought to go out of your way to help them realize that you are someone who will tell them when they are wrong, praise them when they something great, and hear them out when they need a listener. That is one of the easiest ways to ensure that none of the children will cross their boundaries.

  1. Encourage Openness Within The Family

While kids may have the right to own something, it is not advisable to give them a computer, tablet, or smartphone before they reach the age of 18. The reason is that having such mobile gadgets gives them access to various information, which may or may not be good for them. If the teens need to use the PC, they should only use it in the living room. If they want to talk to a friend or anyone else, it should not be hidden to the family, especially to the parents. It is essential to practice openness from early childhood so that they won’t feel odd about it later.

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  1. Update Your House Rules

Keep in mind that the regulations that you impose on a seven-year-old kid are most likely inapplicable to a 15-year-old teen. Whereas the former’s classes end around three in the afternoon, the latter might have extra lessons to take after that. Teenagers usually have extracurricular activities too, which they cannot say no to all the time. Because of that, you should be open to updating your house rules every time your kid reaches a new milestone.

  1. Avoid Living Through Your Kids

Although it seems reasonable to hear parents talk about their dreams for their children, you should not force your dream to them. Many folks do the opposite of that, in which they push the kids to become, say, a doctor or basketball player even if that’s not what the youngsters want. That can result in your children either developing depression or learning how to lie.

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  1. Eat At Least One Meal Together Daily

It should also be one of your main priorities to eat breakfast, lunch or dinner with your family members as much as possible. Some parents forget to do that, claiming that they are busy working to provide their kids’ financial needs. The latter, therefore, get used to eating by themselves or with a nanny. If you don’t do anything about it, they will eventually grow emotionally apart from you and may never listen to you.

  1. Offer Help Even If The Kids Don’t Ask For It

Another thing that you can do is to keep on offering assistance to your children. When kids become teenagers, you see, they feel too timid to ask for help, regardless if it comes to completing school projects or dealing with other problems. The task is much harder for youngsters who are not close to their mom and dad. Hence, as the parent, you should develop a habit of offering help even when the kids already say that they can do something on their own.

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  1. Learn To Make Compromises

Lastly, remember that teenagers do not respond well to regulations that make them feel like kids. These kids think they are as entitled to doing what they want as the adults; that’s why they may not be too agreeable with everything you say. Instead of reprimanding them, however, you should learn to listen to their opinion and come up with an agreement that’s suitable for both of you. This way, both parties will be happy.

Final Thoughts

A teenager won’t stray in a dark, rocky path if they know that they have parents to count on to at any time. Talk to them; listen to whatever they need you to hear. Don’t give up on them too, no matter how rebellious they get.

Try not to forget the parenting tips mentioned above. Good luck!