When Your Child Learns To Cheat And Lie

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“Wow, that looks good on you.” I complimented my 18-year-old with her new outfit.

She bought a pair of tattered jeans and a hanging top. They call it “cropped” top now, but back in the eighties when I was a teenager; we called “hanging” blouse back then since you can see the belly button. I smiled a bit as I recalled my “young and free” days. And now I look at my daughter and I see myself in her.

“Did you get a pay bump?” The outfit must have cost her at least $50 bucks, and she only earns $3.50 an hour at the coffee shop where she works. She managed a quick “Uhm” before she stepped out of the house.

I assumed that she’s been working hard to be buying a lot of things for herself lately. Not that I can’t afford to buy her stuff, but I always teach all my children the value of money, perseverance and hard work. It makes me proud to see her like this – empowered, independent, and responsible. I feel a little accomplished because that’s my child. She’s partly the way she is because I raised her to be such. Little did I know what was happening right under my nose, and I never in a million years taught it is possible.

Lying, Cheating, and Stealing – What’s the difference? NONE.

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Her teacher called me at home and asked if we could meet at a local coffee shop. This can’t be good, I said to myself. Why did she want to meet with me away from school? What is going on here? I asked her what the meeting was all about and she just said – it’s about your daughter. With a lot of questions going on my mind, I agreed to meet with her an hour later.

She started with “I caught Tina cheating, but I didn’t report her to the school administrator because it will jeopardize her college application at NYU.” My heart dropped and literally, my face was white.

“Come again?” I heard her right, but I wanted to be sure if she was telling me the truth or not. Is she for real?

“I said Tina, your daughter, cheated. Well, technically, she did.” My daughter’s teacher said again.

“What happened?” I asked.

Apparently, the reason why my daughter has a lot of extra cash is that she’s been selling term papers, book reports, and other requirements like that for other students. It is illegal and could merit her expulsion from the school. I was so lost and confused from what I heard.

“But as I said, I didn’t push through. I’d hate for this mistake to define Tina when I know she is a very promising young girl.” I could kiss her teacher right now and hug her real tight. All I could manage at that coffee shop was a firm grip on her hand and countless “thank-you.”

It is rare to get an opportunity to redeem yourself, especially in cases like this.

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“I do ask for something, as sort of community service, though. If Tina agrees to help me this summer and tutor underprivileged kids in our center, I will consider this as her “punishment.” Not reporting this to the school authorities puts me at risk, as well, but this can devastate Tina’s future, and I can’t that do that to her. One mistake must not define who we are as a person. I want to give her a chance.” When she said that, I just burst out crying. She comforted me, and after an hour of rambling, we parted ways.

When I reached home, my daughter was there, and the look on her face said it all.

“You could have destroyed your future for a lousy $200, Ti. What was going on your mind? I didn’t teach you to behave this way.” I told her.

“I am so sorry, mom.” My daughter said.

“Tell that to yourself. I’m not the one who was close to losing her future for $200.” And then, I went to my room.

I had a very long talk with my husband about what happened to Tina that night, and we confronted her the next day. We both decided that she must make amends, return all the money she got from her side business, and assist her teacher in the community thing. She’s also grounded. I don’t know when it will be lifted, for now. We also booked an appointment with a family therapist where we can all effectively communicate our inner feelings and thoughts.

With all my heart and soul, I hope it’s not too late for my daughter. I wish for her to learn the lesson. In life, there are no shortcuts. It’s never ok to cheat, lie, or steal.

How to Deal with a Troubled Teen


When children reach the adolescent stage, they are prone to self-destructive behaviors as they become more desperate to show that they are in control by acting like they know everything despite their lack of experience. Their desire to fit in provokes them to do the unthinkable just to gain approval from their peers. During this stage is where they need the guidance of their parents the most.

Tips to Handle Troubled Teens

Keep your cool

Teenagers show rebellion by breaking the rules, getting failing grades at school, and being angry over simple things. These are just a few examples of how they try to push your buttons to get a negative reaction from you. As parents, it is critical to keep calm and deal with the situation using good judgment. Getting mad at them or giving them harsh punishments can only exacerbate the situation, keep in mind that they do all of these things because they need attention, love, and understanding.

Relate to them

At some point in your life, you probably had experiences that are similar to what they are facing at the moment. It can help if you share your own struggles and how you overcome it. Letting them know that what they are going through is normal and that you empathize with them makes you an ally. Be their friend instead of their critic, the more you try to connect with them the more you gain their trust.


Watch out for the warning signs

Showing disobedience with house rules is typical but when your teenager starts experimenting with alcohol, engaging into fights or isolating themselves from people it may be time to seek for help because it can be an indication of a more serious problem that can lead to depression or addiction; which in some cases might require contacting a mental health expert. Always be observant and do not disregard the cues as “part of their transition to the adolescent stage”.

Lend your ears

Being too busy to listen to what your child has to say can give them the impression that you do not care about them at all. Hence, they distance themselves from you and try to resolve their own issues on their own. If you feel that your teenager needs your help, do not hesitate to start a conversation and ask how they are. Always be the first one to hear their problems, act like their best friend so they’ll feel more at east confiding their problems with you.


Do not restrict their independence

Allow your teenager to make adult decisions as long as they do not get hurt or get in trouble in the process. Let them experience how to figure out things by themselves but always set boundaries so they’ll know when to stop and what not to do. Being too strict or fighting with your child for power will only drive them to become more reckless.

If your teenager is acting weird and you notice that he or she is showing a bad behavior what should you do? This is a tough question to answer especially if you have no experience in dealing with misbehaving teens. Learning ways to show support to your teenager during this episode in their life can help save them from going down the wrong path.

Identity Theft: Methods and How To Prevent

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With the increase of online usage such as online shopping and other bank related online transactions, the world has seen a steady increase of cases of identity theft. One might have seen the news or online articles regarding different horror story of identity theft victims.

According to 2017 Identity Fraud Study done by Javelin Strategy & Research, in 2016, 16 billion dollars were stolen from 15.4 million US consumers compared with 15.3 billion dollars and 13.1 victims in the year 2015.

By definition, identity theft is unlawful and unauthorized access and usage of another person’s identifying information such as name, social security number, credit card information or bank account information for the commission of fraud or other crimes. Thieves are able to access your private information through various ways.

Methods of Identity Theft

The most common methods are through your mail, trash, phishing, conning, skimming, and straightforward theft; however, the methods of retrieving information are endless and constantly evolving.

Sending emails as “legitimate” financial institutions in order to deceive people in putting their passwords and other account information

Inserting a device in the ATM and machines that captures your personal information

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  • Straightforward Theft

This is the smash and grab approach done through stealing wallets, pickpocketing and stealing records from companies.

  • Conning

Criminals would call pretending to be customer service agents of a bank or a retailer company then, they would ask you to give out your information in order to verify your identity.

  • Mail

They steal your mails taking advantage of credit card and bank offers; thus, going on sprees and purchases under your account.

  • Trash

These thieves are called dumpster diver. They gather information through going over your financial statements, old bills then, they utilize this information to open new accounts and assume your identity entirely.

These crooks are not just stealing your money but your identity as a person. They can perform numerous unlawful tasks using your name such as buying things under your name, open new credit cards, steal your tax refund, open gas, electricity or gas account, get medical insurance or even worst, pretend to be you during arrests.


It can be prevented

Knowing how these thieves retrieve your information provides the general public the opportunities to put in key measures to hinder the criminals from easily accessing personal data.

  • Shred Documents

Make shredding a habit especially for financial documents and other correspondence before dumping them.

  • Lock your mailbox

Restrict easy access to your mailbox by putting a lock most especially when you go on vacations or out of town. According to Good Housekeeping, 40% of identity thieves sourced their information through going over people’s mail.

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  • Limit offers

Inform your credit card providers by filling up a form online or calling a toll free number to let them know that you prefer not to get pre-approved/prescreened credit offers by mail.

  • Unsolicited Requests

Say “no” whether it’s an unknown call, email or someone showing up at your door asking for personal information. It may be difficult to verify the identity of the person but always keep in mind that reputable companies don’t ask you to provide sensitive information. Verify their offers by directing calling your financial institution. Look for their contact information at the back of your card.

We have seen movies like The Net where identity theft can lead to legal implications and psychological effects to the person such as paranoia, anger issues, depression, and anxiety problems. The only way to protect yourself from these criminals it to always safeguard your digital and personal information.


10 Best Ways To Take Care Of Your Child In Case Of Panic Attack

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According to Dr. Bubrich, a clinical psychologist working at the Child Mind Institute, panic attacks involve a sudden outburst of uncomfortable symptoms, including but not limited to, abnormally fast-paced heartbeat, excessive sweating, trembling, dizziness, and nausea. It feels like patients have a heart attack.

As parents, it is one thing to accept that our child experiences this and it is a different thing actually to deal with panic attacks together with your child. Here are 10 of the best ways to care for your child in case of these unwanted attacks:

  1. Pay Attention To The Details

 Once you start seeing the symptoms of a panic attack on your child, pay attention. Do not dismiss it as just another episode, much less think of it as little drama. Anxiety is real, and it is taking a toll on the lives of many people – elders and teenagers alike.

2. Familiarize Yourself With Attacks

If this is not the first time that your child experienced a panic attack, you should already be familiar with his responses. Take note of his symptoms as well as the most immediate cure for the first-aid to be almost second nature to you already.

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3. Be Patient And Supportive

Panic attacks do not have a standard running time. The attack may be quick, or it may take time, depending on your child and the gravity of the trigger. Throughout the entire process, stick by your child’s side and keep comforting him. Never judge too quickly.

4. Be Open About Panic Attacks

Especially when you are living in a home with other people, do not be ashamed that your child may be experiencing panic attacks. It pays to receive support from other people as well – not only your family members but also from the school and medical professionals.

5. Do Not Panic Yourself – Relax

While it is understandable that as a parent, you might be caught in the moment also and not know what to do with your child, do not panic. Your child would need to draw strength and peace from you. Stay calm and talk to your child in a relaxed manner.

6. Practice Breathing Exercises

Induce proper breathing in your child by telling him to breathe in and then breathe out. Do this breathing exercise for several minutes and let your child take his time. You can also hug him or hold his hand or help him mirror your breathing so he can slow down.

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7. Give Assurance To Your Child

Never forget the words of assurance. Tell your kid that everything will be okay, that there’s nothing to worry about, and that things will get better if they believe. Encourage them with positivity and create an atmosphere that rebuilds trust and confidence.

8. Provide Healthy Disruptions

Depending on your child’s coping mechanism, you may introduce distractions that would take your child’s focus away from the trigger of the panic attack. This coping mechanism may be in the form of looking at the greens outside, listening to music, or reading a book.

9. Be Ready With Medication

In case your kid needs to take medications to manage the effects of a panic attack, be ready with these too. For instance, there are antidepressants called Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors which make the body’s alarm system less reactive.

10. Know When To Seek Assistance

While it may be rare, there are still instances when external help might be warranted such as when the panic attack won’t go away even after a long while. Be ready with the contact number of the nearest hospital and ask help from professionals.

As parents, we are here to guide our children through these episodes and vow to support them all the way until they can overcome their anxiety disorder. Be encouraged by the fact that panic attacks always come to an end and they, like any other disorders, can be overcome.


The Best Activities In The 2016 Houston Homeschoolers Family Fun Day

The 2016 Houston Homeschoolers Family Fun Day is one of the most amazing events that all families enjoy. Aside from the goal of strengthening each member’s relationship, it allows the unit to meet and connect with different individuals in the community as well. There are lots of activities that aim to achieve personality development, talent enhancements, as well as communication skills.

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The Fun Ideas

The event considers family quality time. That’s the reason why they promote volunteering together as a unit. In this activity, everybody makes the world a better place. Parents and children can share a volunteering activity that they all agree to do. Few suggestions included are nursing home caring, the collection of food for the food bank, the organization of small community-based business expo, community clean-up, and fundraising to support non-profit organizations. Another fun idea of the event is planting.

The joy of contributing something back to nature while taking the good in it gets emphasized. Parents and kids can water and harvest plants. It will not only teach kids to appreciate the value of organic produce, but they will also benefit from the nutrients it gives. There are cooking lessons too. There are also song compositions, dancing activity, movie marathons, and a lot more fun activities where both kids and parents can enjoy. There’s also a suggestion for literature and visual arts. There’s drawing and creating self-portraits projects that enhance creativity.

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The emphasis on the event is not just to showcase what family’s worth is, but also the realization of how homeschooling can be beneficial for them. With this event, parents can understand the importance of time spent with their kids while they are exploring new things. Yes, attending school provides its advantages as well, but homeschooling can pose a more positive on-hand outlook in life.

2016 New Jersey School Mental Health Conference: These Kids Need Treatment, Not Punishment

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The number of young offenders in the country today is increasing exponentially. Reasons for this comes in a variety of factors – lack of parental love and support, no educational influence, peer pressure, and more which are then connected with mental health issues. But as these teens are caught up and brought in the juvenile justice system, something must be done to these detained youths. That is the topic during the 2016 New Jersey School Mental Health Conference.

The American Criminal Justice System, for more than one hundred years now, have always treated these juvenile delinquents with special care. They should be handled as such because they are children with problems. There are at least 70,000 teens below the age of eighteen who are confined at any given moment, waiting for their sentence or is assigned to juvenile system custody. Yes, they’ve done terrible things and has been a menace in the community, but if they had a better childhood – would they be infected by mental health issues which led them to be juvenile? This is the million dollar question.

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In the conference, it was stressed out that reform or treatment (like therapy and other methods) are necessary for these kids instead of punishment. It was discovered in a study done by Linda A. Teplin and her team of Northwestern Juvenile Project in Illinois that juvenile delinquents delivered by the system, at least 67% of these kids are already suffering from a mental health issue. Punishing them will not help their emotional and psychological well-being.

So what must be done to help these “lost” kids? Solitary confinement must be stopped. There are studies which proved that depression and self-harm are prone to these kids, especially those who are confined for an extended period. They must also be provided the mental health treatment that they need because punishing them is not effective at all. They will just get infuriated some more, and their anger is not healthily addressed.

For once, the government has to act on this growing “epidemic.” It must provide the necessary treatment for these kids once and for all; once they are treated and reformed, they have the possibility of leading a normal life far from their past.


Family Basics: Practical Tips For Parenting Teenagers

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When a couple decides to start a family, their initial tendency is to read self-help books or attend parenting classes. These resources, after all, are supposed to teach first-time moms and dads how to raise a child. There’s no specific formula on how to become a perfect parent, but they should be able to keep you from committing fewer mistakes.

The thing is, it’s no secret that experts mostly talk about children up to 12 years old. Kids below that age are still heavily dependent on parents, so that’s quite understandable. Nonetheless, people do not call teenagers as young adults for the reason that they need guidance from mom and dad too. Some parents fail to do so; that’s why their children usually end up as juvenile delinquents who fear no one.

Considering you don’t want to see your adolescent kids blossom into responsible adults – and never go behind bars – here are a few practical parenting tips for you.

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  1. Establish Your Role At Home

The first thing you should do is to make your role known in the house. It is too vague to say that you are the mom or the dad, to be honest. Kids can tell which is which based on the gender, but they do not have a predisposed idea of what to expect from you. Thus, you ought to go out of your way to help them realize that you are someone who will tell them when they are wrong, praise them when they something great, and hear them out when they need a listener. That is one of the easiest ways to ensure that none of the children will cross their boundaries.

  1. Encourage Openness Within The Family

While kids may have the right to own something, it is not advisable to give them a computer, tablet, or smartphone before they reach the age of 18. The reason is that having such mobile gadgets gives them access to various information, which may or may not be good for them. If the teens need to use the PC, they should only use it in the living room. If they want to talk to a friend or anyone else, it should not be hidden to the family, especially to the parents. It is essential to practice openness from early childhood so that they won’t feel odd about it later.

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  1. Update Your House Rules

Keep in mind that the regulations that you impose on a seven-year-old kid are most likely inapplicable to a 15-year-old teen. Whereas the former’s classes end around three in the afternoon, the latter might have extra lessons to take after that. Teenagers usually have extracurricular activities too, which they cannot say no to all the time. Because of that, you should be open to updating your house rules every time your kid reaches a new milestone.

  1. Avoid Living Through Your Kids

Although it seems reasonable to hear parents talk about their dreams for their children, you should not force your dream to them. Many folks do the opposite of that, in which they push the kids to become, say, a doctor or basketball player even if that’s not what the youngsters want. That can result in your children either developing depression or learning how to lie.

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  1. Eat At Least One Meal Together Daily

It should also be one of your main priorities to eat breakfast, lunch or dinner with your family members as much as possible. Some parents forget to do that, claiming that they are busy working to provide their kids’ financial needs. The latter, therefore, get used to eating by themselves or with a nanny. If you don’t do anything about it, they will eventually grow emotionally apart from you and may never listen to you.

  1. Offer Help Even If The Kids Don’t Ask For It

Another thing that you can do is to keep on offering assistance to your children. When kids become teenagers, you see, they feel too timid to ask for help, regardless if it comes to completing school projects or dealing with other problems. The task is much harder for youngsters who are not close to their mom and dad. Hence, as the parent, you should develop a habit of offering help even when the kids already say that they can do something on their own.

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  1. Learn To Make Compromises

Lastly, remember that teenagers do not respond well to regulations that make them feel like kids. These kids think they are as entitled to doing what they want as the adults; that’s why they may not be too agreeable with everything you say. Instead of reprimanding them, however, you should learn to listen to their opinion and come up with an agreement that’s suitable for both of you. This way, both parties will be happy.

Final Thoughts

A teenager won’t stray in a dark, rocky path if they know that they have parents to count on to at any time. Talk to them; listen to whatever they need you to hear. Don’t give up on them too, no matter how rebellious they get.

Try not to forget the parenting tips mentioned above. Good luck!


Oppositional Defiant Child – Try Parent Counseling

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As parents, it is our job to consider our child’s needs and their unique conditions, among other things. For children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder or ODD, it can be challenging to interact with other children and authority figures. They defy the rules, argue with adults, and are prone to emotional outbursts which can upset people around your child. 


But by doing your research on ODD and some parent counseling sessions, it can be easy to strategize ways to promote cooperation within your home. Your child can also practice it on the outside.


Step 1: Create A Detailed Daily Schedule For The Week And Stick To It. 


Children with behavioral problems tend to act up as a response to stress. Minimize this stress by imposing structure and routine. Be as detailed as you can, including the time and duration for each activity. If there will be any changes to the schedule, be sure that you inform the child in advance. 


Step 2: Have A Designated Area In Your Home For Your Child To Vent Out His Frustrations. 


Equip the area with throw pillows, stress balls, and other durable toys. That way, instead of taking out their anger on you or his siblings, the child can develop a habit of expressing himself healthily and positively. It is also a right way for them to build awareness of their triggers. You can even talk to your child’s teacher and explain what you have at home. The teacher can also provide the same need.


Step 3: Make A Checklist Of Your Child’s Problematic Behavior And Tackle Each One Systematically.

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You can start with the most challenging behavior and work your way down the list. Trying to address all the issues at once can be overwhelming for you and your child. As you deal with each behavior, explain to the child why he needs to stop acting such and follow specific rules. (You can learn how to do this through parent counseling.)  


Step 4: Develop A Reward System To Give Your Child Incentives. 


Give the child rewards for good behavior. You can allow your child to play his computer or tablet game for a set time or schedule. He can also pick a treat or choose what snack to eat. It doesn’t have to be money or toys. Simple things will do. 


Step 5: Another Way To Positively Reward Your Child Is To Praise Him. 


One of the reasons children act up is due to low self-esteem, so build him up with encouragement and positive affirmations. Adults tend to criticize undesirable behaviors, thinking that it will make the child stop. Instead, it causes them additional stress. Never criticize.


Step 6: When Giving Your Child Instructions, Make It Easy To Follow, But It Must Be Specific. 


It helps to break down more prominent instructions into smaller goals to avoid overwhelming and discouraging the child. For easy reference, write these instructions down for your child. 


Step 7: Teach The Child Alternative Ways Of Self-Expression.

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Another reason children hurt others is that they are unable to articulate what they want. If they pull another child’s hair, it may be just because they want to get the child’s attention. So instead, teach your child to express himself freely and create an environment wherein everyone can voice out healthily. 


Step 8: Integrate Activities At Home That Can Help The Child Work Off Excess Energy. 


Give them time to run around and play games with the other children – in the classroom or on play dates. Let your ODD child take an active role in the games. Such activities can also foster teamwork and teach them essential skills such as leadership, critical thinking, and sportsmanship.


ODD doesn’t have to hinder your child from growing into a well-rounded adult. You, as the parents, will have a significant impact on how your ODD child is going to grow up. With these tips, you are on the right parenting path.

Ways of Reducing Stress When Raising A Defiant Teen

This is the reality: no parent has ever said that raising a teenager is a walk in the park. It is indeed a responsibility that demands time, patience, and a lot of love. Obviously, it is a stressful phase in a parent’s life. 

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For this reason, we have listed a collection of some of the best stress management strategies according to some experts, to help parents deal with their stresses and enable them to raise their teens smoothly and appropriately.


Important Strategies That Parents Can Follow



  • Always Be Physically And Mentally Well. This means that a parent should practice good daily habits like eating healthy, exercising, and taking care of herself. A teenager is already a handful, what more if you have a defiant one. You must be strong in mind and body to be able to show tough love and an open mind to understand your teen. 


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  • Be In The Now. Stress usually involves worry – worry about what happened to your teen last night when he got home drunk, or about how to hurt you were when he shouted at you because you reprimanded him about his low grades. And then our anticipation of what’s about to happen weighs us further down, dampening our spirit and leading us to anxiety and depression. 



Psychiatrists often recommend that parents try to tune in to the present and think of ways to solve or reduce the problems instead of dwelling in the past or future. This has been proven to decrease stress levels and allows one to come up with better solutions. Francoise Adan, Connor Integrative Health Network’s medical director, says, “When you are stressed, you are not really in the present. And when you’re not in the present, you’re just all over the place.”


How To Be In Tune With The Present



  • Utilize Your Senses. Find time to be alone in your home or office, and listen to yourself – to how you feel, what you’re craving to eat, what kind of music would relax you right now, or perhaps where you would love to go. This increases good vibes within yourself and encourages you to face your defiant teen with a clear mind. 




  • Control Your Breaths. According to experts, controlled breathing encourages one to get rid of her bad thoughts. When you breathe in for a few seconds, you welcome good energy and expel the bad when you exhale for a good six seconds. When you master this, you can progress to doing meditation or yoga. Who knows, your teen might just want to join. 


Be Positive. Yes, being hopeful that your teen is just going through his normal phase does help in managing your stress levels. It pushes you to be extra patient with him, guiding him along the way while being stern with your decisions when he defies unreasonably. Showing your teen that you are hopeful about how things will go might also give him hope and a positive outlook in life.

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Other Useful Strategies


A more convenient way to help you learn more about handling your defiant teen and reducing your stress levels is finding parents who also have teens themselves. Every parent has different ways of handling teenagers, and listening to them and joining in on their conversations can help you a great deal. 


Finally, perhaps you need to realize that you don’t have to do everything for your teenager. He is, after all, a teenager. He can do the laundry, wash the dishes, or run some errands. Sometimes, parents have a hard time letting go of their responsibilities that they become too overwhelmed with all that they’re doing on a daily basis. Share the load with your teen. This way, you are also encouraging him to become responsible and self-reliant. 

Parental Options For Out Of Control Teens Part 1

I’ve been there, and I know the feeling. My teenager was rebellious and utterly disrespectful at one point. He even ran away from home to prove a point. My son was 16 years old back then, and luckily, I made the right choice.

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I did something different at that time which angered my son to the core. He hated me for a very long time, but when he understood the reason behind my actions, he was grateful. My son is now 25 years old, has a stable job with opportunities to advance in his career, married, and a baby on the way. He is even planning to buy a small home for his family. My son – the offender at 16, the troubled teen, and the once lost boy; he is now a mature and responsible young man. It has been my dream for him since his birth.


I’m not saying that the things I will discuss here will work for you, but it worked for me. With that, here’s what parents can do with their 16-year-old teens (actually any age as long as he is a minor) who are out of control or who have run away from home. 


Teen Offense


Denying parental authority and running away from home are considered offenses, but not crimes. If this is a problem in your home, as parents, you can make the following sacrifices:


  • Report the child to the authorities
  • File a complaint in court
  • Have the child emancipated


If the parents wish to declare their teen as a “youth in crisis,” the judge can help them with that. The child will then be forced to return to his home, go to school, or get counseling, and will not be permitted to drive a vehicle. However, please note that the court of limited powers reinforces these orders. By law, holding a minor in detention is strictly prohibited. 


As of January 1, 2010, the legislation agreed to raise the age qualified for the Juvenile Court Jurisdiction to 17 years old. 


Police Response

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Teens running away from home is off the police’s jurisdiction. However, parents can report the incident to the authorities. The complaint should be written down with the following details: 


  • The dates concerning the incident
  • The behavior of the teen
  • Names of some possible concerned people
  • Their respective home address
  • Where the teen was last seen
  • A full description of your child


The police can do the following: 


  • Take note of the parents’ appearance
  • Check the family’s background for assaults and violence
  • Refer the case to concerned agencies and check for records
  • Provide the parents statements of the relevant agencies and persons
  • Encourage parents to file youth crisis petition


Once the report is in and assessed, the police department will immediately update their database, inform all dispatched units and make a public notice of the incident. If the child is found, police are obliged to notify the parents at once. 


However, before notifying the parents, the police should ascertain if the child is safe once he is returned home. The police will then check the following factors:


  • The parents’ wellbeing upon reporting the incident and learning about the child’s condition
  • If there is an existence of abuse, violence, and neglect in the family
  • The reasons behind why the teen has run away (private interview)


Once the parents are informed about the location of the child, the officer will do the following: 


  • Accompany the teen to his home, to another place wherein the teen will stay if not with his parents or a temporary shelter.
  • Refer the kid to Probate Court 
  • Hold the teen in protective custody for a maximum of 12 hours while the department finds a suitable place for him. 
  • He will not be held in jail. 
  • Take the child to the concerned agencies, whether he likes it or not. 
  • Refer the child to a bureau concerning the youth.


If neither of the actions above is appropriate, the case will then be referred to Juvenile Court.

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We will stop right here, and I will let you process the information you’ve read. As for me, I did what I had to do with my son – I put him in jail. I called the police and I got him arrested. It’s not one of my proudest moments, but my son is a better person now because of what I did. He has bounced around from one agency to another until the courts ruled that he had to man up and do certain things, or else he will be put in prison for a long time. I think that was my son’s turning point.


My husband and I got divorced. I guess he didn’t like the idea of me pushing our son to the authorities. But when our son held his first job, his father asked me out for lunch, and he apologized. It was a proper closure for us both. 


Anyway, watch out for the part two of this article. I hope you gained insights from my personal experience, and from the provisions of the law.