Frequently Asked Questions About Manic Depressive Symptoms

Whenever I tell people that my life is like that of a Disney Princess, they all seem fascinated by me. They think that I am a real-life princess who just found out I am one, or I have always known that I am a princess and just hiding my identity from other people. However, when I say that I lived like Rapunzel before Flynn Rider found her, I would see their smiles slowly leave their faces as the reality would dawn on them.

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I Was A Prisoner, And I Did Not Know It

I grew up in a small property at the bottom of a mountain. Since the beginning, I noticed that I did not look anything like the parents that I knew. I remembered asking them why I was brown-skinned while they were both as fair as snow, and they told me that it was because they adopted me from an orphanage in India. After all, they could not have a child of their own. I was pretty contented with their response, so I did not ask about it again. Besides, they cared for me deeply and gave me everything I asked for and more.

The main thing that I was not allowed to do was leave the property. My parents told me that it was scary out there for “kids of color” like me. To make sure I was always supervised, they would take turns going to town to buy our supplies and food for the animals. As for my studies,  I did not really get enrolled in a school, but they would always bring books appropriate for my age and teach me everything from math to science, art, and even history. Because of that, I would say that I did not really miss out. I had no access to children’s TV shows, so I assumed that’s how every kid lived in the world.

Learning The Truth By Chance

As soon as I became a teenager, my parents became more confident about going out of the property together, leaving me on my own. They would give me different tasks to keep me busy while they were gone to get bored. However, I thought of turning on the TV and flipping through all the channels one afternoon. It was another activity that I was not allowed to do when they were present, but I guess it was the rebellious child me that did it anyway.

As if by miracle, I came across a news channel. My eyes instantly fixated on the image of an infant who got kidnapped from a daycare center when she was only a year old. Her pictures flashed on the screen with a message that her parents were still not giving up on finding her.

My heart started thumping so hard in my chest; I thought it was gonna come out. I knew what I looked like, after all. I knew that I was the baby in those pictures. I couldn’t wrap my head around the idea that I was kidnapped instead of adopted, as I wasn’t originally made to believe. So, I fled right away.

I had never been out of the property ever, but I knew which way my parents – or should I say kidnappers now? – would always take. I followed that path but made sure to stay off the road to avoid coming across them. When I reached the town, I went straight to the police station and asked them to contact the broadcasting channel that showed my baby pictures. I was glad that they acted immediately and searched the property where I was held captive for 13 years.

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When I finally met my biological parents, I realized how many milestones we missed in each others’ lives. We cried for hours, and my parents insisted that we should sleep in one room that night as they feared that I would get abducted again. But despite living with my kidnappers for years, all my affection for them vanished. It was even replaced with anger when the two confessed to their crime and reasoned that they did it because they felt lonely.

How does loneliness kill?

Loneliness can be a very overwhelming emotion for many people, especially when it becomes chronic and persistent. A group of researchers has found that loneliness can increase the risk of a heart attack by up to 40 percent. Apart from this, the study also states that the chances of sudden death increase by 50 percent. 

What does it mean to be emotionally isolated?

The basic definition of emotional isolation is when a person can function in social groups or networks. However, they still feel as if they cannot connect with people on an emotional level. In most cases, emotionally isolated people tend to feel quite lonely, and they are most likely unable to communicate with other people. There are also cases when a person emotionally isolates themselves as a defense mechanism to protect themselves from emotional distress.

Why does isolation cause insanity?

A group of researchers had found that after a few hours of being isolated, a person can experience a distorted perception of reality. Concepts such as time, hallucinations, and anxiety are distorted, which is why reality changes the longer you are isolated. After all, humans are social beings, and we require a certain amount of social interaction to keep our minds at bay. 

Is exercise as effective as an antidepressant?

The great thing about doing an intense physical activity like an exercise routine is that it provides many health benefits, including a mood boost. Exercise promotes the release of endorphins, or happy hormones, which makes a person feel better. And so, the risk of depression is low. But a person who is having severe depression needs the assistance of a psychiatrist and antidepressants, together with exercise.

Does exercise help anxiety and depression?

In a study published in May of 2017, it has been found that exercise and antidepressants are at an equal level of effectiveness in treating depression and anxiety. Also, when we add exercise to the treatment of a person going through depression, chances of healing at a faster rate can increase. Although research published does not promote exercise as a stand-alone form of mental illness treatment, you must follow a treatment plan that can be long-lasting, combined with exercise benefits. 

Why is exercise an antidepressant?

Exercise can facilitate nerve growth in our hippocampus, an area in our brain that focuses on our limbic system, which improves the connections in our nerve cells found to relieve depression among people. Researchers have also found that team sports can elevate our moods more than other activities, and when our spirits are elevated, the risk for depression decreases at the same time. However, exercise should not be a stand-alone treatment for depression as researchers still do not believe this can be used. 

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How does exercise affect your mental health?

Studies show that our mental health is also being taken care of when we take care of our bodies. Exercise has been found to give us a better mental state by reducing our anxieties, depression, and foul moods. Exercise can also improve our self-esteem and cognitive functions, making us think clearer and make decisions better. Also, exercise has been found to alleviate low self-esteem, social anxiety, and social isolation. 

What is the best natural antidepressant?

Natural means of healing are always a good alternative for wanting to be medicated for a mental illness, especially if we find antidepressants a little out of our budget. There are numerous plants, herbs, and other food that we can use as natural antidepressants, which we can easily find. These plants are St John’s Wort, Omega 3 fatty acid, saffron, folate, and zinc. All these natural sources can be used as a natural antidepressant, but of course, the best one will depend on the person’s bodily reactions.

What type of exercise is best for anxiety?

There are many different physical activities or exercises that we can do to help with our anxieties. Some of these activities are swimming, biking, running, walking, tennis, and dancing. Of course, the best exercise will still depend on what makes your serotonin levels increase, and whichever exercise it is, that makes you feel good about yourself afterward. The point of exercising is taking care of our body, and the more we release sweat and stress, the less anxiety we have in our body.

How long does it take for exercise to improve mood?

According to the article published by the American Psychological Association, it can take only five minutes of exercise or physical activity for a person’s mood to enhance. As one of the researchers has pointed out in the article published, the connection between exercise and mood enhancement can be pretty strong, so it is no wonder that when we exercise, we feel a sense of happiness or productivity right after even if we might feel tired afterward.

What gets rid of anxiety?

We can do different things to try and calm ourselves when experiencing anxiety. Some are pretty physical, and some are as simple as just taking deep breaths. What you can try to do is when we feel anxious, we can take a deep breath and count to 10. You can also start eating well-balanced meals and exercising daily, even for at least 10 to 15 minutes a day. Also, try to limit your caffeine and alcohol intake to avoid any panic attacks that may stem from this. 

Does walking help with anxiety?

Simple tasks such as biking, dancing, or even a simple brisk walk is a powerful tool that helps us be in a better mood. Psychologists have been studying how walking can affect our mental health for a while now. So far, they have discovered that a ten-minute walk might be as effective as a 45-minute workout. In other studies, exercise has been shown to quickly uplift our moods, switching from our depressive states to a happier and healthier mood.

How can I improve my mental health?

Multiple studies have shown a strong link between our mental and physical health. So when we take care of our physical bodies by eating healthy, exercising, and drinking enough water, we also take care of our mental health. We can do for our mental health to choose to do whatever it is that makes us happy. If journaling or singing, or drawing, or whatever it is, make us happy, then go ahead and do it. An increase in our serotonin levels can help balance our moods and help decrease our mental illness risk. 

Does exercise help stress?

What exercise can do is it can boost the production of your endorphins or your feel-good hormones. Apart from the fact that exercise can help you with your physical health and self-worth, when we exercise, the more endorphins are produced, and the more endorphins produced, the less stressed we feel. So when our bodies start feeling better, our minds do too. So keep exercising, and you might feel healthier throughout. 

Does exercise increase serotonin? 

In some studies that we recently published, it has been found that exercise can actually increase our production of serotonin and also the release of it. Even the simplest of exercises like biking, walking, or jogging can increase our serotonin levels. The more we exercise, the more we release serotonin.

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How do you know if someone is manic-depressive?

There are seven signs of mania that we can look out for in other people. These seven signs can characterize manic depression, so make sure that you are careful with these symptoms. We have overly happy periods, a reduced need for rest, fast-paced talking, impulsiveness, becoming easily distracted, sudden overconfidence in our abilities, and a sudden engagement in risky behavior that was never an issue before. So, keep an eye on those who have the highest moods and suddenly the lowest of periods.

How long do manic and depressive episodes last?

Usually, mania can last up to four months. A depressive episode can go as long as eight months. Treatment is needed for people with these disorders.

Is Manic Depressive the same as bipolar?

The term “manic depressive” used to be what Bipolar Disorder is now. So, yes, it is the same. Bipolar disorder is a mental health issue that displays extreme mood swings from high episodes (mania) to low attacks (depression).

 How do you deal with a manic depressive?

To be thorough, here are ways to deal with a manic-depressive loved one.

  1. Education and awareness
  2. Listening to that person
  3. Reassuring the person that you are there for him and that he or she has positive qualities
  4. Assist them during therapy, however necessary
  5. Create a plan of action whenever an extreme mood manifests
  6. Be supportive and never pushy
  7. Be caring and understanding
  8. Take care of yourself too
  9. Stay positive and be patient with the person
  10. Ask help from a professional if it gets too much.

Can a bipolar person truly love?

People with mental health issues are human beings, and they deserve to feel love and be in love. But their extreme mood swings can negatively affect their romantic relationships. Treatment is necessary to get them healthy. 

 What are the four types of bipolar?

There are four types of bipolar disorder – bipolar I disorder, bipolar II disorder, cyclothymic disorder, and bipolar disorder caused by substance use.

Final Thoughts

I could never bring back the years that my kidnappers stole from me. I learned that they both had manic depression, and they would be rotting in a mental health facility for what they did to me. Instead of dwelling on that, I enrolled at an alternative learning school and went to a class for the first time. My new dream was to become a law enforcer and always look out for predatory people who lurked around children. This way, I could help ensure that they would not have the same fate as I did.

Frequently Asked Questions About Guilt And Shame

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Ever since I graduated from college, it had been my lifelong dream to become a social worker. I belonged to the foster care system, you see, and I met a lot of kids during that time who needed help but did not know who to ask. Because of that, some of them ended up committing various crimes that caused the justice system to label them as juvenile delinquents.

I was fortunate to join a non-profit organization that offered counsel to such children as soon as I received my diploma. At first, of course, I was ecstatic to get the job. It was something I had always wanted to do; I genuinely felt like I could turn their lives around by showing them the correct path. However, reality struck me harshly when the first kid I dealt with seemed like the toughest nut to crack among the group.

Dealing With A Young Delinquent

Let’s call him Joel for the sake of not using too many pronouns (although that’s not his real name). Joel was only five years old when his parents died in a car accident, and no relative wanted to take him in, so he went straight to foster care right after the funeral. Based on the old pictures that his social workers gave me, I saw that Joel used to be a happy boy. The older he became, though, the more his smile lessened until he had nothing but a poker face from age 11 onwards.

It was challenging to blame Joel for his bitterness, given that he had already been in more than 20 foster homes. Some of them were nice, but others apparently tried to take advantage of the little boy, so he learned to be tough. Then, his last foster parent starved him, so Joel did not think twice before stealing from the grocery store a couple of times until he got caught and sent to the authorities.

The first few times I talked to Joel, he would not even acknowledge my presence. He merely looked at other people or scratched an invisible smudge on the table while I continued to babble. The only time I got Joel’s attention was when I asked, “How do you feel about what you did?”

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“I feel guilty,” Joel said, his eyes still unable to meet mine.

I thought, Wow, this is a breakthrough. Not wanting to let the opportunity pass, I prodded, “Why do you feel guilty?”

“I took what was not mine. I shouldn’t have done that.”

Joel lifted the collar of his shirt to his face, and then I heard him sniffling. My heart broke for the boy. I wanted to give him a consoling hug, but that was against the protocol. Instead, I took a deep breath and said, “If you let the judge and the grocery store owner know that you are sorry, perhaps they can dump your case. You need to be brave enough to accept your mistake.”

Joel finally looked at me with those tear-filled brown eyes, and my heart melted even more. Gone was the brusque teenager that I met not too long ago. He was still wearing the same clothes and everything, but in his place was a scared little boy who felt helpless and did not know how to get out of his situation. I realized there, and then that guilt could make or break a person.

What type of emotion is guilt?

 Guilt is a type of emotion that you experience when you figure out that your actions have caused misfortune to someone or that you have done nothing to do what’s right or expected of you. It is typically felt by individuals who have survived a life-or-death situation or have committed a mortal sin.

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What is pathological guilt?

 Pathological guilt is an abnormal type of accountability that affects people’s lives and aggravates various mental disorders like phobia, depression, addiction, anxiety, etc. It is irregular in the sense that a person feels guilty more often than others.

What’s guilt trip mean?

 A guilt trip is an act that an individual commits to another when they want to force the latter to do their bidding. For instance, X is pregnant and wants her husband, Y, to buy food in the middle of the night. When Y refuses, X guilt trips him by saying that not fulfilling her cravings might affect the baby’s development.

What is the guilt?

 Guilt is a remorseful emotion that a person deals with once they realize that they have offended someone or committed a crime. You may also feel guilty when you lie to another person, no matter how big or small it is.

Final Thoughts

I was in the courtroom when Joel faced the judge and the grocery store owner. I noticed in their reactions that they were surprised by the change in the teenager’s demeanor. He seemed respectful and sincere in every word; he did not even cuss at all. All Joel did was admit how guilty he was for his wrongdoings and hoped to get another opportunity to grow up like the other kids.

It did not take long for Joel to be released from the juvy. Though I no longer had to work on his case, considering he was already back in the foster care system, I made it my new mission to find a permanent home for him. It honestly was a challenge, considering most adoptive parents wanted babies or young children, not a boy who would become a full-fledged adult in less than three years. However, after dealing with a few more bumps on the road, I accompanied Joel to his new parents’ doorsteps.

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The affection and bond between them were instant, so they filed for adoption after four months. They managed to provide all the necessary papers in no time; there were no contests from Joel’s remaining relatives. Hence, on the 22nd of June 2018, Joel – a former juvenile delinquent – got the family he deserved.

Soothing Thoughts During Quarantine For Teens Stigmatized By Past Wrongdoings

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Everyone has life stories that they are most embarrassed about during their teenage years. For instance, a friend once told us secretly (Sorry, James!) that he soiled his pants on the bus in high school and acted like it did not happen. A colleague mentioned that her former classmate became a laughingstock for an entire year because she showed up at a school fair wearing a sun costume.

However, how would you feel if you found out that a teenager wanted to alter their life, but their previous wrongdoings often stigmatized them?

I do not need to be acquainted with a once-troubled teen to understand what they go through while trying to repent. If you think the world is already harsh to nerds, geeks, and poor folks, it is more jarring for those youngsters with criminal records. When the truth comes out, they get stigmatized because of that, and no one seems to want to give them another chance.

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If that is what you are experiencing now even during quarantine, I am sorry. Some individuals are merely narrow-minded; they do not understand what repenting means. It will be best to stop paying attention to them and remembering the following instead:

You Can Change

The first thing you should ingrain in your head is that you can change. Improving yourself is not impossible, though it may require a lot of effort from you. If you wish to be a better person, you can do it.

Try not to listen to those individuals who say, “Once a wrongdoer, always a wrongdoer.” They can talk smack until their mouths bubble, but it does not mean they are correct about you. Only you can tell if you can genuinely change your life.

A Sketchy Past Can Be Used For A Good Cause

I have gone to various seminars over the years in which the guest speakers are former delinquents. Some of them sold or used drugs as teens; others got caught stealing stuff or bullying people. However, they managed to see the fault in their actions and started living lawfully.

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My point is that you should not be too ashamed of your sketchy past too much. Instead of hiding it from everyone, you can talk openly about it and discuss how you have survived that aspect of your life. This way, you may help current delinquents think of leaving their old habits and becoming better versions of themselves.

Your Dreams Can Come True

Hearing folks say that you will amount to nothing because of your past wrongdoings can be very discouraging. That is especially true for teenagers who are only beginning to dream. 

If that is the case for you, I strongly advise you to stop listening to insensitive comments. They are no different from evil spirits that will do everything to see you fail because that’s what makes them happy. 

News flash: It is not your job to make others happy at your expense. You should live your life and work hard so that your dreams can come true.

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Final Thoughts

It is always heartwarming to know that some rebellious teenagers want to turn their lives around without prompting from anyone else. That is enough proof to show how serious you are about changing for the better.

Now, I get how painful it is to hear others mention your previous wrongdoings, especially when you are trying to straighten up your act. But if you genuinely wish to change, you should never let them who you are and can be. You are still young; you can do so many incredible things if that’s what you want.

Good luck!

How to Discipline Bad Behaviors of Your Teen

Lucky catch! You stumbled upon this article to help you in putting reigns to your teens after developing bad behaviors. Learning bad behaviors is normal for a developing teenager. But, it does not mean that you have to tolerate these bad behaviors. As their parent, you still have to make sure that your once angelic baby will grow up into a responsible adult. To help you stay sane in managing your troubled teen, here are some easy tricks that you can use:

Set Clear Rules

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Teenagers usually push the boundaries of their parents. That’s why it is important to set clear rules among your teens. If you tell them to be home before midnight, they might have the tendency to push the boundaries by being home at 11:59. If you warn them not to drink at bars and clubs, they might just go to their friend’s house and get drunk there. Setting clear rules will establish understanding between you and your teen as to what are the rules to be followed and why they are being disciplined after breaking them.

Use Consequences

Discipline doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to punish your teens. However, you still have to do something that will allow your teen to learn a lesson after breaking rules. You can use consequences depending on the gravity of the behavior. You have to make sure that these consequences would be fair for your teens. If your teen failed to do his/her homework, you can take away his/her privilege of hanging out with friends in the weekend.

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Moreover, try to give appropriate consequences with bad behaviors. Let your teens know that they would receive these consequences if they break these specific rules. They are more likely to abide by the rules if they understand why they have to follow them and why they will receive such consequences if they fail to follow.

Be Firm and Consistent

Being firm and consistent is very important to teach your teens responsibility. If you set clear rules and established consequences when those rules are not being met, then you have to responsible in implementing them. Bad behaviors in teens will flourish if they know that you are very lenient in your rules. Your teens may think that following those rules is not really that important because you don’t give your full commitment on them — so why should they bother as well.

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We all know that being parents is really a tough job especially if your teens are constantly developing bad behaviors. That is why it is important for you to be responsible in your own way and be a good role model for your teens. If your teens are surrounded and influenced with responsible individuals like their parents, then most likely they would eventually be responsible teens.

 

What You Need To Know About Identity Theft

We know how to secure our physical valuables, such as our money and gadgets. However, many of us don’t know how to protect something more important: our identity. In the US alone, identity theft affected more than 16 million people in 2017. These people collectively lost more than 16 million dollars, and that doesn’t include intangible costs, such as damaged reputations and lost time. Indeed, identity theft can sometimes be worse than physical robbery, so you need to make adequate preparations for it.

Identity theft can be a confusing matter to understand. Why would someone claim to be you, and how do criminals do it? Learning more about this brand of crime will help you prevent yourself from being an easy target by these criminals. As long as you follow the best practices for avoiding this type of theft, you can rest assured that your identity will remain secure for years to come.

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Stealing Someone’s Identity

You might be wondering: why would someone impersonate you? As a productive citizen, you already have precious assets such as social security benefits or the salary from your employer. You have access to one or more bank accounts, many of which hold substantial amounts of money. You also have friends and acquaintances that have their valuable assets. Someone who pretends to be you can seize all of these.

Impersonation can take one of many forms. For instance, thieves can intercept your connection when you access the Internet through an unsecured connection, such as public Wi-Fi spots. When you try to access banking sites or log into social media accounts, they can retrieve your credentials and use them to access your accounts. They can withdraw your money, lock you out of your accounts, and use your online persona to trick more people.

Another common technique used by identity criminals is phishing. They can create websites that look like login pages for legitimate sites. When you enter your credentials, you’re left with a useless site while they get to steal your data. Other digital forms of theft include sending you emails laden with malware, which scours your device for passwords and other private data. 

Less sophisticated approaches also exist. Some criminals will sift through your garbage for documents from which they can glean information, such as credit card billings or tax forms. Sometimes, they can use public data about yourself, such as your home address or phone number, to gain access to your other accounts. This method is possible because many security questions ask for personal information that they can obtain, such as your mother’s name.

Identity theft can cost you a fortune, damage your credit score, and ruin relationships. Even when reported, it can take years to reverse the worst effects. Hence, prevention is of utmost importance.

Protecting Your Identity

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One quick way to prevent identity theft is to limit the amount of personal information that you share online. When creating new accounts, use the least amount of information you can. Don’t share sensitive information such as your birthdate, complete home address, or phone numbers.

You should also secure the login credentials you use. Activate two-factor authentication whenever you can to make it harder to access your accounts. Use a secure network for your connections. Use long, alphanumeric passwords, and use a password manager to keep them safe. Finally, shred any physical documents before disposing of them.

Always remember that your identity is one of your most precious belonging. Protect it at all costs.

Ways To Discipline Your Child When Caught Cheating In School

No parent desires to be called by the principal due to cheating. However, this is common in the school setting. While your kid’s offense may upset you, you still have to think of strategies on how to discipline your child to avoid problems like this in the future. Hence, here are some ways for parents to remedy the situation.

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Listen To All Sides

As a parent, you might have the instinct to defend your child from the student or teacher who accused your child of cheating. However, this should not be the case. You should be neutral in these cases and seek the stories of all those who are involved.

The best way to start this is to set a meeting with the educators alongside your child. Ask for their version of the story. How did the teacher know of the cheating? What’s the story behind the classmate’s accusation? If you cannot understand what they are saying, calmly ask for clarification and patiently listen.

You also have to understand that cheating nowadays goes beyond looking at someone’s paper or copying their classmate’s homework. The rise of the digital age also gave way to more sophisticated means of doing this act. Some examples of this include wearing smartwatches with answers on them or hacking the principal’s computer to have access to the tests. With this in mind, you should always be open when listening to all of their accounts.

Give Out Punishments

Once you have verified that they indeed cheated, you have to hold them accountable for it and punish them for their wrongdoing. However, it is essential to tailor the consequences depending on the gravity of their situation. For example, his or her punishment for copying homework must be lesser than for cheating on an exam.

Some disciplinary actions include the following:

  • Welcome school consequences. If the teacher decides to give him detention or a zero on his paper, let them be. Do not stick up for your child since this might only give him the idea that cheating is acceptable for you.
  • Encourage him to apologize. He should make amends to those people involved. It may be with his classmate he copied his answers from or to the teacher whom he tricked.
  • Create a schoolwork plan. As a parent, you should also help your child cope with the stresses of school. To avoid copying and cheating, you can create a plan for schoolwork. It ensures that he does his homework or reads his assigned readings. The program can include establishing a fixed study time in the house, reading several pages of a book every day, or assigning a tutor for your child.

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Find The Reason For Cheating

There is most likely a reason why your child resorted to cheating. It can be because he or she sees older people cheat, there’s too much academic pressure, or his friends force him or her to commit the offense. Whatever it is, you have to pinpoint the exact reason why to be able to address the root of his or her dishonesty.

Always remember that you should send the message that cheating is unacceptable. Do not focus on what punishments to give to your child. If they don’t fully grasp the importance of honesty, they will most likely repeat this act in the future.

Top Alternatives To School Detention

Most educators see school detention as ineffective and a waste of time. Admit it: this punishment does not instantly fix a student’s attitude. It then leads them to become repeat offenders in the following weeks. Reading boring books and staring at walls might not do the job, but there are other alternatives to the traditional school detention. Let us explore them one by one.

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Lunch Workshop

Administrators can hire a counselor and meet these challenging students once a week for their lunch workshop. They are required to report to the counselor’s office without having to worry about their lunch. The office serves lunch so students won’t use the long lines in the cafeteria as an excuse to skip the sessions.

The counselor will then run a series of workshops tackling various character development issues. These include developing a positive vibe, having a growth mindset, attending support groups, or overcoming school stressors. The students should be able to connect to the chosen topics, and the one leading the discussion should be genuine to make the sessions as productive as possible.

After the mini-workshops, the counselor gives the floor to the student. It can be a safe space for him or her to share some of the struggles he or she faces. This practice will help build trust and connection with one another.

Mindful Moment Room

Instead of sending the naughty kids to a bland classroom, why not cure their disruptive behavior in a room with pillows, blankets, lamps, and decorations called the Mindful Moment Room. This place can be a space for the students to go through various types of meditation to calm them down.

Research shows that meditation positively affects both the body and mind. It enhances an individual’s patience, focus, attention span, and attitude.

Robert Coleman Elementary already practices this after-school program, and they were able to reap its benefits in just a short amount of time. According to the school administrators, the suspension rates dropped, class attendance increased, and test scores were at its highest in the past year.

Reflection Papers

If a student has a record of misbehaving all the time, the teacher may opt to place them in a quiet room and have them write a reflection paper. You can assign topics that you think they can relate to. After they write it, make sure to talk to them about their piece and engage a conversation with them.

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This approach can also be the best strategy for you to know why a student is acting up. Once you know his or her struggles, it will be easier for you to create a tailored action plan.

Community Service

Rather than cooping the student in a hole, why not let him or her engage in community service? Your school can partner with several non-governmental organizations (NGOs) where they can lend their time. These include nursing homes, orphanage, environmental groups, and many more. Exposing these individuals to good deeds might help them reassess their lives and change for the better.

Do not expect students to change their troubling behaviors by placing them in a small classroom. The goal of detention is to let the students be accountable for their mistakes, reflect on these shortcomings, and improve their behavior. The four alternatives mentioned above could be the way to attain these.

Self-Help Strategies To Overcome Kleptomania

Every time we encounter someone who steals from us, we always associate them with the idea of a criminal. We do not feel sorry for these individuals since we think that they do it on purpose. However, some people are only victims of a mental health disorder called kleptomania.

Kleptomania is the inability to prevent oneself from stealing from other people and feeling guilty and ashamed after. Take note that this is different from those who steal just because they’re bored, they want a thrill, or they only wish to. Kleptomaniacs feel uncontrollable urges to do this act, even if they don’t desire to. If you are experiencing these impulses, you might want to try these self-help strategies to overcome the disorder.

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Accept Your Situation

It is essential to recognize that you are experiencing kleptomania and understand that you need help. Some people fail to address this because of their inability to accept their situation. If you keep on putting aside this problem, your disorder might escalate more in the future.

Contemplate

You should start contemplating and reflecting to understand your condition completely. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • When do you usually steal?
  • How often do you do it?
  • How does it make you feel?
  • What do you think are your triggers?
  • What do you think are its consequences?
  • Who benefits from this?

You can grasp your stealing behaviors with the answers to these questions. Do you engage in this act to escape from reality or do you steal to experience emotional high? Are you more likely to do it when you’re stressed or when you’re relaxed? There are endless answers that you can obtain from these myriads of questions. You only have to analyze your responses to see the whole picture of your situation.

Create A Prevention Plan

Drafting a prevention plan can help you take control of your desire to steal. Start by identifying your stealing history. Then, determine your triggers from stealing and come up with specific steps to avoid waking up these urges. Here are some strategies for your prevention plan:

  • Observe. If you feel the urge beginning, stop what you are doing and stand still. Observe your environment, the people around you, and yourself. This action will help you calm your mind.
  • Talk to yourself. When you’re on the verge of succumbing to pressure, try talking to yourself. Remind yourself of your values, how good you are as a person, and how much you love yourself.
  • Exercise relaxation techniques. You can use relaxation techniques such as yoga or repeated breathing to calm yourself.
  • Distract yourself. Do something that you are passionate about, be it playing sports, painting, writing, or watching a movie. You should find a positive alternative to stealing.

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Aside from these self-help strategies, it might also be helpful for you to seek the help of a therapist.

BetterHelp is an online platform geared towards giving its users access to affordable therapy and counseling at the tip of their fingers.

Remember, you don’t have to endure your problem alone. You’ll get back on track faster with the help of your family, friends, and some professionals.

How To Deal With Your Parents White Lies According To Therapists

There have been many talks, studies, and writeups by therapists about children lying to their parents. On the other hand, discussions about parents lying to their children are rare. Telling white lies to a toddler-aged kid has been normalized by many when it comes to parenting. Once you get to your teenage years or young adulthood, and your parents still do this act, conflicts tend to arise, and the gap tends to increase.

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Research suggests most people consider it socially and culturally acceptable for parents to use white lies with their children. Psychologists and therapists identify some common reasons for parents’ white lies, including the protection of their children and their interests.

Parents also cover up the truth to shape their children’s behavior and feelings. Research from two related studies on parental lying and deception in the United States found parents also use white lies as a strategy to make their children happy. 

Impact Of Parental Lying On A Parent-Child Relationship

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It has been proven parental lying damages your relationship with your parents and diminishes intrinsic motivation. As a result, you will not learn the appropriate behavior you need to demonstrate if you always cooperate when they tell you white lies. Lying also tends to exhaust parents mentally as they must always remember the story they created to look and sound consistent.

Parents are hurting their children when they lie to them. As you grow old while you get used to your parents contradicting the truth you have come to know, you end up doubting yourself. At a young age, you should already have your inner sense of right and wrong through your parents’ encouragement. You may be denied a healthy personality once you are unable to trust yourself because of your parents.

Massachusetts Institute of Technology researchers have found children can sense when their parents are lying to them. It can lead them to distrust their parents, the very people who should teach them ethical values. Children, especially those who are beyond the age of curiosity, are not gullible and know when their parents are withholding information.

A New York Times article also pointed out that psychiatrists have been seeking to determine when white lies become destructive. Moreover, they have also been studying which kinds of mental health problems can be derived consequently. Therefore, parental lying may not only negatively impact a parent-child relationship but also cause serious health and well-being issues within the family.

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Tips On Dealing With Your Parents’ White Lies

  • Always ask your parents genuine questions. Every time you ask your parents about something you would like to know, measure their truth’s consistency. Show them you are eager to know the ‘real truth’ and how it will effectively and positively affect you as their child and as an individual.
  • Sympathize with your parents. It is crucial that at a young age, you already learn how to let your parents know you understand them and their struggles. Show your parents how open-minded and understanding you have become. As a result, they will no longer deny you the truth you seek to know even if it might hurt your feelings. Make them feel you are on the same page.
  • Avoid being overpowered by disappointment. As previously mentioned, parents often lie to protect their children’s emotions. It does not mean they are already removing parental support and guidance. As their child, you might face disappointments from your parents’ white lies and suspicious actions. You must know how not to overthink everything. Find a solution alongside your parents rather than on your own.
  • Distinguish the difference between acceptable and forbidden lies. Learning about the boundaries between truth and consequences at a young age are likely to stay with us as we grow up and old. You must not be oversensitive about everything and realize the white lies created by your parents are not always about or because of you.
  • Let them know what you value as a person. It is okay to be vocal as a child, especially when you demonstrate and maintain a respectful behavior. Open communication has been a vital, fundamental key to keeping a harmonious relationship within every group or network such as your family. Tell them directly how you feel about things and what you would like to know to improve yourself and manage growth.

Therapists have been giving expert advice to parents who still use lying as a parenting strategy. Now it is time you do your part as a growing child to understand your parents’ white lies and let them know you deserve to know the truth.

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Living With Mean Parents

There are people in our lives that always make us feel loved, safe, and respected. Those qualities are what we expect our parents would provide out of all people in the world. However, not all of our expectations reach a happy ending. That’s because some parents don’t seem to do their job correctly. As a result, some of us end up hating and not wanting them around. Most experts and psychologists would agree that our parents’ approach to bad parenting will affect our way of thinking and behaving. Therefore, the chances of damaging our overall health are at risk when we live and choose to stay with mean parents.

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Too Much Toxicity

Most parents would make a lot of sacrifices for their children so that they can have a better future. Unfortunately, there are those parents that don’t seem to work that way. Sometimes, they are the ones who always ridicule, taunt, and tease their kids for no apparent reason. These parents often yell and scream at their children when they do something wrong. There is no proper disciplinary action implied in parenting. In worst cases, they even resort to physical harm sometimes, especially when they get irritated and frustrated over a small mistake. There are unfortunate instances too that they would say mean and hurtful things. These include “you’re a terrible child,” “I don’t like you,” “you’re a burden to this family,” “I don’t love you,” “I regret not aborting you,” and a lot more.

With all the toxicity inside the family, a lot of us would grow up with low self-esteem and self-worth. Yes, we often hear their excuse such as “those are just words, and you’ll eventually get over it.” Some of us would think that our parents somehow don’t mean what they say. Despite our parents saying those words over and over again, we believe them. But something inside of us knows those words mean a lot.

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All the pressure, anxiety, and depression that our mean parents are giving us are unacceptable. In some cases, some of us do stupid things because of the emotional and mental damage they cause. These include cutting and inflicting self-harm. We often end up making bad decisions in life as well because we get caught up in situations we can’t handle. We are not given proper guidance and often left alone. We live in a condition where there’s no room for us to feel safe and wanted. We get trapped with all the negative things that continuously damage our overall health. That’s all because the persons who are supposed to protect, love, and care for us are the ones who inflict tormenting pain and agony.

Choose To Be Better

As children, we know we have to be thankful for our parents’ sacrifices for us. We understand that there’s no greater love than what they can offer. We know that what they do only represents their love and affection towards us. Sometimes we might feel that things are not enough or quite too much. But our parents are doing everything they can to protect us from harm. However, if their parenting style becomes hurtful instead of helpful, we need to tell them. Some would think that correcting them would be disrespectful, but we have to let them know. We need to let go of the negative influence in our lives before we end up losing everything we have. We have to stop thinking that there’s this constant need for our parents. Because we might never know, perhaps it’s them who need us.

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To those some of you out there who are struggling with mean and toxic parents, you need to listen. The negative influence in our lives will continue to contribute a detrimental effect if we let it. We don’t need to suffer this way. Nobody is allowed to hurt us emotionally, physically, and mentally, even if that’s our parents or any members of the family. We need to become a better person not only for ourselves but for the people around us as well.

We can’t choose our parents. However, we can decide how they should impact our lives. We can still make changes in it. It should start with the acceptance that our parents are causing us emotional and mental trauma. Therefore, we need to do something about it.