Top Alternatives To School Detention

Most educators see school detention as ineffective and a waste of time. Admit it: this punishment does not instantly fix a student’s attitude. It then leads them to become repeat offenders in the following weeks. Reading boring books and staring at walls might not do the job, but there are other alternatives to the traditional school detention. Let us explore them one by one.


Lunch Workshop

Administrators can hire a counselor and meet these challenging students once a week for their lunch workshop. They are required to report to the counselor’s office without having to worry about their lunch. The office serves lunch so students won’t use the long lines in the cafeteria as an excuse to skip the sessions.

The counselor will then run a series of workshops tackling various character development issues. These include developing a positive vibe, having a growth mindset, attending support groups, or overcoming school stressors. The students should be able to connect to the chosen topics, and the one leading the discussion should be genuine to make the sessions as productive as possible.

After the mini-workshops, the counselor gives the floor to the student. It can be a safe space for him or her to share some of the struggles he or she faces. This practice will help build trust and connection with one another.

Mindful Moment Room

Instead of sending the naughty kids to a bland classroom, why not cure their disruptive behavior in a room with pillows, blankets, lamps, and decorations called the Mindful Moment Room. This place can be a space for the students to go through various types of meditation to calm them down.

Research shows that meditation positively affects both the body and mind. It enhances an individual’s patience, focus, attention span, and attitude.

Robert Coleman Elementary already practices this after-school program, and they were able to reap its benefits in just a short amount of time. According to the school administrators, the suspension rates dropped, class attendance increased, and test scores were at its highest in the past year.

Reflection Papers

If a student has a record of misbehaving all the time, the teacher may opt to place them in a quiet room and have them write a reflection paper. You can assign topics that you think they can relate to. After they write it, make sure to talk to them about their piece and engage a conversation with them.


This approach can also be the best strategy for you to know why a student is acting up. Once you know his or her struggles, it will be easier for you to create a tailored action plan.

Community Service

Rather than cooping the student in a hole, why not let him or her engage in community service? Your school can partner with several non-governmental organizations (NGOs) where they can lend their time. These include nursing homes, orphanage, environmental groups, and many more. Exposing these individuals to good deeds might help them reassess their lives and change for the better.

Do not expect students to change their troubling behaviors by placing them in a small classroom. The goal of detention is to let the students be accountable for their mistakes, reflect on these shortcomings, and improve their behavior. The four alternatives mentioned above could be the way to attain these.

Out of the System

Who really knows what to do when a loved one is released from prison? When someone has been a part of the criminal system, it can be a nerve-wracking time to have that person come home. You are nervous and aren’t sure how to proceed and it can generally be a tough time for everyone. However, it’s necessary to ensure the environment is safe for yourself and the person coming home. You also want to ensure you do your part to make your child feel welcome once again. If you are experiencing behavioral problems with your teenage children, it could possibly be related to crimes they are committing. Therefore, you should seek advice from free online counseling.

What to Do When Your Child Comes Out Of the System?

If your child has been in jail or in a rehab program, there are going to be some anxious moments and you will be very worried about their support and what your role is. However, it’s time to take a deep breath and think carefully. Firstly, you might want to ensure the environment they come home to is suitable. For example, there should be no temptation for them whether it’s drink, drugs, or any bad influences around them. Secondly, you could help support them by meeting with group counselors and work with the authorities to ensure the environment is safe for everyone.

How to Help?

Depending on the severity of the crime or problem with your child, you might want to look at online counseling or self-help groups. For instance, if your child had a serious problem with drinking or drug use, it could be wise to look for a rehab program. If the child has already gone through such a program, you could look at support groups they can follow up with. There are truly lots of options to consider here and they can be pretty important in order to help keep your child on the right tracks and can hopefully rebuild their lives.

Can They Change Their Lives Around?


You have to give someone the ability and belief to change their life around. For starters, you cannot be negative you have to find ways to help encourage them to remain positive and find ways to change, little by little. For example, instead of banning your friend or child from seeing their old group of friends, why not find an alternative? You could say they can come around to your home, under your supervision and ensure the child isn’t being badly influenced by them. There are lots of ways to help someone change their life and become a better person; it might take a while but anything is possible.

Leave the System Behind

Being constantly reminded of what happened will drag the person down. You cannot bring up the system time and time again because it’ll drive the child crazy and may feel inclined to repeat what they did. You don’t want history to repeat itself so it’s vital to find a way to help the person just released. There will be tough times ahead but if you are willing to work at it, anything is possible. Do your part and make the child feel welcomed and hopefully, it’ll help keep them on the right tracks. If you think your teenage child has committed or may be thinking about committing a crime, you should seek advice from online counseling with a reputable company.

When Your Child Is Aggressive And Hurts Others


My day was packed and busy. Deadlines at work were upon me, and even if I was exhausted, the stress I was experiencing was the “good” kind. I was being productive and being in my element made me happy. My son was doing well in daycare and hubby was fulfilled at work. I mean, everything was going great for our family. Or so I thought.

Mrs. Smith, director of the daycare center where I bring little Mikey, rang my phone. I furrowed my eyebrows in surprise which then turned into fear in a split second. Is something wrong with Little Mikey??? Why is Mrs. Smith calling me? I had to excuse myself from the team meeting and went out the conference room.

“Hello, Ms. Taylor. I’m sorry for calling you at work. I know you’re busy, but this is important.” Mrs. Smith said. My heart beat faster than before. There is something wrong with my son. And why is she so calm? Is this the peaceful moment before the storm?

“Everything ok, Mrs. Smith? Is Mikey ok?” I asked in a panic.

“Mikey is fine. I’m sorry for making you worry. But there was an incident.” She said.

“What incident? What do you mean?” That was my reply.

“Mikey was involved in an altercation with another boy. It was on CCTV, he initiated aggressiveness and punched the other child.” She said sadly.

“Oh, my good lord! Is the other boy ok?” I asked with tears slowly forming in my eyes.

“Yes, yes he is. Just a bit shook up. I called because we need to talk about this in my office. Are you free now?” Mrs. Smith said.

I didn’t say I’m busy. How could I when my son’s behavior was unusual and appalling? Now, I’m stressed. And it’s not the “good” kind.

As I enter Mrs. Smith’s office, the children were there and so was the mother of the other boy. She looked pissed, and of course, I understand her fully. I waited for Mrs. Smith to facilitate and start the meeting.


She started with “Kids can be very heavy-handed or that their acts can be too aggressive while they play. While it’s not their intention to hurt playmates, sometimes, it can happen. They would hit other kids, slap them, pinch, scratch, poke, bite, pull girls hair, kick while playing and shoving. At times, there is punching and knocking down. It doesn’t mean the other child is bad or a bully, but we need to curb this behavior because we want them to grow up as loving, caring and responsible adults.”

“I am so sorry for my son’s behavior and action,” I told the boy’s mother.

“Rest assured that this will not happen again and that I will bring Mikey to a therapist.” This time, I turned to Mrs. Smith. I said that because I can’t find an available center for Mikey at short notice and if his action would merit suspension from the center, my schedule would be compromised. But of course, the underlying issue here is for Mikey to learn that violence is never a solution to anything.

After I said all of that, the mother of the other child seems appeased, and she said that it was child’s play and can be let go. She left with her child, and Mrs. Smith told me to stay.


“Ms. Taylor, I’m an OT or an occupational therapist. I’m not saying that Mikey is a naughty boy. He’s just a boy who’s curious and experimenting. But we need to focus on this and recondition his mind. We have to instill in him that hurting other is not good. DO NOT HIT. HITTING OTHERS WILL HURT THEM, AND IT’S A BAD THING TO DO. Every time he does that, we supplement with these words.” Mrs. Smith said.

“If Mikey continues with this behavior and we don’t teach him what’s right and wrong, he will grow up to be a bully. We cannot ignore this, and we also have to monitor his acts. Are we on the same page with this? I want to help Mikey.”

“I agree.” That was all I could say.

And so, I book an appointment with a child therapist to see what’s up with Mikey. I also took time off from work because I want my son to feel that I am “there” for him. Money is nothing compared to my son. If he grows up to be a young offender because I didn’t take the time to help him while he was young, then, it’s my fault.

When Your Child Learns To Cheat And Lie


“Wow, that looks good on you.” I complimented my 18-year-old with her new outfit.

She bought a pair of tattered jeans and a hanging top. They call it “cropped” top now, but back in the eighties when I was a teenager; we called “hanging” blouse back then since you can see the belly button. I smiled a bit as I recalled my “young and free” days. And now I look at my daughter and I see myself in her.

“Did you get a pay bump?” The outfit must have cost her at least $50 bucks, and she only earns $3.50 an hour at the coffee shop where she works. She managed a quick “Uhm” before she stepped out of the house.

I assumed that she’s been working hard to be buying a lot of things for herself lately. Not that I can’t afford to buy her stuff, but I always teach all my children the value of money, perseverance and hard work. It makes me proud to see her like this – empowered, independent, and responsible. I feel a little accomplished because that’s my child. She’s partly the way she is because I raised her to be such. Little did I know what was happening right under my nose, and I never in a million years taught it is possible.

Lying, Cheating, and Stealing – What’s the difference? NONE.


Her teacher called me at home and asked if we could meet at a local coffee shop. This can’t be good, I said to myself. Why did she want to meet with me away from school? What is going on here? I asked her what the meeting was all about and she just said – it’s about your daughter. With a lot of questions going on my mind, I agreed to meet with her an hour later.

She started with “I caught Tina cheating, but I didn’t report her to the school administrator because it will jeopardize her college application at NYU.” My heart dropped and literally, my face was white.

“Come again?” I heard her right, but I wanted to be sure if she was telling me the truth or not. Is she for real?

“I said Tina, your daughter, cheated. Well, technically, she did.” My daughter’s teacher said again.

“What happened?” I asked.

Apparently, the reason why my daughter has a lot of extra cash is that she’s been selling term papers, book reports, and other requirements like that for other students. It is illegal and could merit her expulsion from the school. I was so lost and confused from what I heard.

“But as I said, I didn’t push through. I’d hate for this mistake to define Tina when I know she is a very promising young girl.” I could kiss her teacher right now and hug her real tight. All I could manage at that coffee shop was a firm grip on her hand and countless “thank-you.”

It is rare to get an opportunity to redeem yourself, especially in cases like this.


“I do ask for something, as sort of community service, though. If Tina agrees to help me this summer and tutor underprivileged kids in our center, I will consider this as her “punishment.” Not reporting this to the school authorities puts me at risk, as well, but this can devastate Tina’s future, and I can’t that do that to her. One mistake must not define who we are as a person. I want to give her a chance.” When she said that, I just burst out crying. She comforted me, and after an hour of rambling, we parted ways.

When I reached home, my daughter was there, and the look on her face said it all.

“You could have destroyed your future for a lousy $200, Ti. What was going on your mind? I didn’t teach you to behave this way.” I told her.

“I am so sorry, mom.” My daughter said.

“Tell that to yourself. I’m not the one who was close to losing her future for $200.” And then, I went to my room.

I had a very long talk with my husband about what happened to Tina that night, and we confronted her the next day. We both decided that she must make amends, return all the money she got from her side business, and assist her teacher in the community thing. She’s also grounded. I don’t know when it will be lifted, for now. We also booked an appointment with a family therapist where we can all effectively communicate our inner feelings and thoughts.

With all my heart and soul, I hope it’s not too late for my daughter. I wish for her to learn the lesson. In life, there are no shortcuts. It’s never ok to cheat, lie, or steal.

The Avoidant Personality Disorder: Know The Basics


I usually feel tense or nervous. I feel awkward or out of place in social situations. I won’t get involved with people until I’m certain they like me. I worry a lot that people may not like me. A lot of things seem dangerous to me that don’t bother most people. I keep to myself even when there are other people around.

If these realizations have been bothering you, then maybe you have avoidant personality disorder.

The World Health Organization marked three distinctive characteristics of a person with avoidant personality disorder (AVPD). This includes feelings of tension and apprehension, insecurity, and inferiority.

Persons with this psychiatric condition are often associated with having social anxiety and dependent personality disorder. As the name suggests, they have difficulty in socializing with other people because of the fear of getting ridiculed, criticized or put into an embarrassing situation. At the same time, they also desire to form a relationship with another person because of dependency needs.

What is like living with AVPD?

Marie, 20 years old, has been living with her boyfriend Jake for 6 months now but with Marie’s AVPD, Jake is already on the verge of giving up. Jake recounts that its very difficult to understand her at times. “We tried to talk her concerns and issues but she would take it as shaming or rejection. This is getting so tiring already.”

With AVPD, persons tend to focus on a single concern while ignoring priorities. They are pre-occupied with self-loathing and self-victimization issues. They perceive everything that is going on around them are directed to their existence. That’s why they avoid going to parties or large group gathering because they have this constant perception that they are socially inept. Some AVPD individuals have a hard time forming or maintaining a healthy and lasting relationship because of the passive-aggressive behaviors. Their partners need to have longer patience, awareness, and understanding about their condition in order to help them.

If the AVDP person is working, it can be very hard for them to stay on the job. They are easily disappointed and can get into trouble with other employees because of wrongful interpretations of issues, inability to handle stress in the work setting, and even inability to provide productive work.

Cause of AVPD

Just like any mental health condition, personality disorders do not only take one causal factor to make it happen. There is an interplay of several factors that contributed to the development of AVPD. Psychologists and psychiatrists believed that it has something to do with social, environmental land psychological upbringing. These are called trigger factors to a predetermined genetic and biologic individual who is at risk to develop AVPD. When a child is raised in an environment where he or she is constantly humiliated or criticized, there is a big possibility that their personalities can be altered and then constructed to have all the features of AVDP in later life. Statistically, the condition accounts for 2-6% of the general population and is equally present in both genders.

Treatment options

The good news about personality disorders is that they are treatable. In the case of Marie and Jake, they are willing to mend and make things work for them. They are undergoing a series of therapies to help them both go through this. Aside from doing research online about websites that provide therapy services, Marie is also attending an individual therapy session to focus the interventions to herself. The goal of the therapy is to help the person verbalize their concerns about communicating with other people, confront those worries directly, helping them find the right resources or methods to allay their fears, helping them with stress management, and slowly introducing them to the social circle until they become more comfortable with social gatherings and in dealing with criticism.


With regards to medications, they can be given with antidepressants and anxiolytics to help control depression and lower down anxiety levels.

Bottom line is, the earlier the condition is managed the better. The complications of AVPD leans toward substance abuse and addiction in the later stages as the condition continues to paralyze the person in the social dimension.


What Goes On in The Mind of a Young Offender?

Teenagers and adolescents are often associated with juvenile delinquency. This is the stage of their lives where they are the most curious about the world. More often than not, teenagers have the time, energy and money (from parents) to explore what curiosity dictates them to. This, however, gives rise to some pressing social problems.

For years, certain types of young people have been regarded as problems of the society due to their violent acts that create disorder and chaos in places. Juvenile delinquents, as they are called. Juvenile delinquency is defined as a crime (violations of the law) committed by young people or minors that is not punishable by death or life imprisonment. This include but is not limited to theft, shoplifting, bullying, gambling, and other criminal activities that result from their antisocial behavior.


Risk Factors for the Development of Delinquent Patterns

Antisocial behavior is commonly defined as actions or disruptive acts that harm the well-being of other people. Be it in the form of physical or verbal aggressiveness, this kind of behavior doesn’t recognize authority. Most of the time it is already beyond parental control.


Typical examples of a juvenile delinquency can be seen from teenagers joining gang fights, cursing at teachers, stealing from backpacks and even as simple doing graffiti and violating dress codes. They resist any authority – be it police officers or even their parents.

Past events mainly influence the development of delinquent patterns and antisocial behavior on the juveniles. These young offenders may have come from a broken family or a disruptive childhood.

Other than experiences, the kind of environment they are in can also be a massive factor for delinquency. They may have been living in a chaotic place. Family and friends whom they always encounter will very much influence the development of aggressive behavior.


Juvenile Delinquents and Their Mindsets


Teenagers and adolescents with a dysfunctional family background feel neglect and lack of attention from their loved ones. Parents and other family members ignore them, so they think that they are free to do whatever they want and go home past the curfew.

The millennial term of YOLO (You Only Live Once) implicitly tells everybody to take risks as you only live and experience things once. Psychiatrists state that these young offenders act impulsively on instinct when confronted with problems and decision-making situations.

Juvenile delinquents are also vulnerable to peer pressure. More often than not, “What the other one does, I’m also doing” somewhat becomes an everyday quote for them. If they can do it, then I can do it. They tend to look at short-term payoffs or instant results and underestimate long-term consequences.


The above statement results in these young offenders doing irrational things without thoroughly understanding and analyzing them. Whatever gets the job done, then that’s it. Also, they are most likely to ignore and overlook alternative actions.

Experts have long linked teen brains’ immaturity to juvenile delinquency. The teenage brain is still developing and maturing, they argue. Without proper guidance, proper reasoning, logic and sound judgment, they will go nowhere upon the brain’s complete development. Juveniles, after all, are susceptible to what they see, what they observe, and what they feel.

These kids need guidance. BetterHelp is an easy to use app that helps you get therapy at an affordable price without having to leave home and with what’s happening today? Staying home is the only way to go but getting BetterHelp makes it easier for all of us coping through it.

The Best Activities In The 2016 Houston Homeschoolers Family Fun Day

The 2016 Houston Homeschoolers Family Fun Day is one of the most amazing events that all families enjoy. Aside from the goal of strengthening each member’s relationship, it allows the unit to meet and connect with different individuals in the community as well. There are lots of activities that aim to achieve personality development, talent enhancements, as well as communication skills.


The Fun Ideas

The event considers family quality time. That’s the reason why they promote volunteering together as a unit. In this activity, everybody makes the world a better place. Parents and children can share a volunteering activity that they all agree to do. Few suggestions included are nursing home caring, the collection of food for the food bank, the organization of small community-based business expo, community clean-up, and fundraising to support non-profit organizations. Another fun idea of the event is planting.

The joy of contributing something back to nature while taking the good in it gets emphasized. Parents and kids can water and harvest plants. It will not only teach kids to appreciate the value of organic produce, but they will also benefit from the nutrients it gives. There are cooking lessons too. There are also song compositions, dancing activity, movie marathons, and a lot more fun activities where both kids and parents can enjoy. There’s also a suggestion for literature and visual arts. There’s drawing and creating self-portraits projects that enhance creativity.


The emphasis on the event is not just to showcase what family’s worth is, but also the realization of how homeschooling can be beneficial for them. With this event, parents can understand the importance of time spent with their kids while they are exploring new things. Yes, attending school provides its advantages as well, but homeschooling can pose a more positive on-hand outlook in life.

2016 New Jersey School Mental Health Conference: These Kids Need Treatment, Not Punishment


The number of young offenders in the country today is increasing exponentially. Reasons for this comes in a variety of factors – lack of parental love and support, no educational influence, peer pressure, and more which are then connected with mental health issues. But as these teens are caught up and brought in the juvenile justice system, something must be done to these detained youths. That is the topic during the 2016 New Jersey School Mental Health Conference.

The American Criminal Justice System, for more than one hundred years now, have always treated these juvenile delinquents with special care. They should be handled as such because they are children with problems. There are at least 70,000 teens below the age of eighteen who are confined at any given moment, waiting for their sentence or is assigned to juvenile system custody. Yes, they’ve done terrible things and has been a menace in the community, but if they had a better childhood – would they be infected by mental health issues which led them to be juvenile? This is the million dollar question.


In the conference, it was stressed out that reform or treatment (like therapy and other methods) are necessary for these kids instead of punishment. It was discovered in a study done by Linda A. Teplin and her team of Northwestern Juvenile Project in Illinois that juvenile delinquents delivered by the system, at least 67% of these kids are already suffering from a mental health issue. Punishing them will not help their emotional and psychological well-being.

So what must be done to help these “lost” kids? Solitary confinement must be stopped. There are studies which proved that depression and self-harm are prone to these kids, especially those who are confined for an extended period. They must also be provided the mental health treatment that they need because punishing them is not effective at all. They will just get infuriated some more, and their anger is not healthily addressed.

For once, the government has to act on this growing “epidemic.” It must provide the necessary treatment for these kids once and for all; once they are treated and reformed, they have the possibility of leading a normal life far from their past.


Psychology 101: Why Do Young People Commit Theft?

Parents and older members of the community work hand in hand to become the best role models for the children. They – the kids – are excellent imitators, after all. In case they are often around good Samaritans, they may end up volunteering a lot. Consequently, if these youngsters often hear someone cuss from birth, they think it’s acceptable and may start cursing like a sailor regardless of who they are speaking with now.


One of the activities that adults can never teach kids – whether consciously or unconsciously – is stealing. The teachers at school and the parents at home tell them that it’s better to ask for something than to take it without permission. Still, many young people get sent to the juvenile detention facilities because of theft.

Psychology experts say that there are a few reasons why they think of stealing instead of enjoying their childhood. Some of them include:

  1. Peer Pressure

One of the most typical causes of thieving is the bad influence. For instance, a nerdy child wants to become a part of a little gang of famous students from the school. The latter, however, decided that it would be fun to coax him or her to steal Starbursts at a 7-Eleven store before he or she could join the group. Out of desperation to fit in, the poor kid might do it against their better judgment.

  1. Depression

Many young and old children tend to stop following rules when depressed. If you tell them to turn right, they go left. In their head, they are forever doomed; they do not have a future ahead of them. That’s why getting caught or, worse, having a police record for stealing means nothing to them.



  1. Neglect

Some youngsters opt to become a thief as well in hopes of getting the attention of their busy parents. They are likely aware that it is highly unacceptable in the eyes of the law, yet they do so to have their mom or dad stop what they are doing and focus on them. Even if it entails that the store where they stole something might charge them with theft, that is.

  1. Loss

Losing something or someone makes some children feel like there is a hole they need to fill in their system. While others do it by finding new friends or picking up a hobby, some falsely believe that they will be okay after managing to steal somewhere. That often results in plenty of repercussions, of course.

  1. Kleptomania

Unfortunately, there are a few young people who were born with a type of mania that allows them to commit theft. Although they are aware of how lousy stealing is, they cannot resist the magnetism of getting anything from candy to a pair of shoes without paying for them. Their mental disorder says that it’s fun; hence, it may be difficult to cull this habit.


  1. Poverty

Coming from a low-income family and not being able to buy new stuff is not enough validation for committing theft, that is true. Sadly, some children think that that is the only way for them to have what kids who hail from well-off parents have. They stop thinking about what’s right or wrong at that moment; they merely go for it and hope for the best.

In Conclusion

Becoming a thief is not innate in every human being. Circumstances and, in a few cases, mental health illnesses push people, especially the young ones, to go against the law. Instead of condemning for their actions, though, it is best to discipline them and teach them how to behave well.


Anxiety Could Be The Reason For Your Child’s Oppositional Behavior

Lukas on some days worries about things which he should not concern himself with much.  There are nights when he will ask so many questions about what’s going to happen in school the next day.  He is sometimes preoccupied with so many what ifs.  He worries that he won’t wake up early to make it to his class on time.  He fears what if the car won’t start or if his father forgot to pick him up, which never happened.  He worries about his homework, even worries about why a classmate did not show up at school.  


Some parents may think of this behavior as a typical part of his growing up and that the kid is justa good observant.  



Anxiety is an individual’s reaction to stress.   It could be manifested physically or emotionally, and the way he views his environment.  This is seen when Lukas worries about what might happen, fearing that something might go wrong, or there could be some kind of threat.  


Anxiety could serve as our body’s alarm system which turns on whenever we recognize danger or threat.  We may feel dizzy, sweaty, or shaky, and can even have a rapid heartbeat or difficulty breathing.   


Normal Anxiety

We all feel tense and uneasyfrom time to time, and this could range from a mild feeling of uneasiness to a full-blown panic.  


The kind of anxiety that Lukas experiences is the usual anxiety.  He experiences this because of fear that some situations that are not usual might occur, and he wants to be prepared for it.  He may also feel anxious during an exam which is kind of useful as it can motivate him to study harder to be ready for his test.  


Normal anxiety helps kids stay alert, focused, and willing to do their best. 


Anxiety Disorders

However, once anxiety becomes too strong and occurs more often, it can be disturbing.  It may interfere with your kid’s ability to get things done, and in some cases can restrict the child to enjoy parts of his life.  It can even result in him misbehaving.  


Sometimes, a kid has outbursts in school because he is upset by something or by a classmate who tends to hurt a classmate.   He can go ballistic, throwing things around, and running away quickly out of the room and down the hallway.  He may even hit his teachers and other authority figures in school if they try to restrain or discipline him.  


It may look to be some kind ofsevere anger issues.  A kid’s disruptive, oppositional, or aggressive behavior can be due to unrecognized anxiety disorder.  It is his way of reacting to the anxiety he is experiencing, which he cannot articulate effectively, and perhaps this is something that is not recognized in the home.


According to a clinical psychologist, a younger kid’s anxiety can be his freezing or clingy attitude.  To some, they can express it by having tantrums, complete meltdowns, and oppositional behaviors.  


Even the licensed professionals are not sure what causes anxiety disorders.  They say it could be genetic, brain biochemistry, stressful life circumstances, overactive fight-flight response, or could be learned behavior.  


Anxiety And The Oppositional Behavior

Anxiety caused by things that had happened in a child’s life – death of a loved one, parents’ divorce, moving in a new place, and even abuse – can make him more vulnerable to developing oppositional behavior, especially when the anxiety is not processed.  It could affect how a child views the world around him and treatsthe people in his life.  


The anxiety that results in oppositional behavior does not only disturb a kid’s day-to-day functioning in school, sleeping, and eating, but worse, it could affect him later in life.  


A child with anxiety often has uncontrolled temperament, trouble sleeping in his own room, the habit of avoiding specificactivities, and difficulty separating himself from his parents.  If you are noticing these signs in your child, it would be a wise move to have it checked early.