There are people in our lives that always make us feel loved, safe, and respected. Those qualities are what we expect our parents would provide out of all people in the world. However, not all of our expectations reach a happy ending. That’s because some parents don’t seem to do their job correctly. As a result, some of us end up hating and not wanting them around. Most experts and psychologists would agree that our parents’ approach to bad parenting will affect our way of thinking and behaving. Therefore, the chances of damaging our overall health are at risk when we live and choose to stay with mean parents.
Too Much Toxicity
Most parents would make a lot of sacrifices for their children so that they can have a better future. Unfortunately, there are those parents that don’t seem to work that way. Sometimes, they are the ones who always ridicule, taunt, and tease their kids for no apparent reason. These parents often yell and scream at their children when they do something wrong. There is no proper disciplinary action implied in parenting. In worst cases, they even resort to physical harm sometimes, especially when they get irritated and frustrated over a small mistake. There are unfortunate instances too that they would say mean and hurtful things. These include “you’re a terrible child,” “I don’t like you,” “you’re a burden to this family,” “I don’t love you,” “I regret not aborting you,” and a lot more.
With all the toxicity inside the family, a lot of us would grow up with low self-esteem and self-worth. Yes, we often hear their excuse such as “those are just words, and you’ll eventually get over it.” Some of us would think that our parents somehow don’t mean what they say. Despite our parents saying those words over and over again, we believe them. But something inside of us knows those words mean a lot.
All the pressure, anxiety, and depression that our mean parents are giving us are unacceptable. In some cases, some of us do stupid things because of the emotional and mental damage they cause. These include cutting and inflicting self-harm. We often end up making bad decisions in life as well because we get caught up in situations we can’t handle. We are not given proper guidance and often left alone. We live in a condition where there’s no room for us to feel safe and wanted. We get trapped with all the negative things that continuously damage our overall health. That’s all because the persons who are supposed to protect, love, and care for us are the ones who inflict tormenting pain and agony.
Choose To Be Better
As children, we know we have to be thankful for our parents’ sacrifices for us. We understand that there’s no greater love than what they can offer. We know that what they do only represents their love and affection towards us. Sometimes we might feel that things are not enough or quite too much. But our parents are doing everything they can to protect us from harm. However, if their parenting style becomes hurtful instead of helpful, we need to tell them. Some would think that correcting them would be disrespectful, but we have to let them know. We need to let go of the negative influence in our lives before we end up losing everything we have. We have to stop thinking that there’s this constant need for our parents. Because we might never know, perhaps it’s them who need us.
To those some of you out there who are struggling with mean and toxic parents, you need to listen. The negative influence in our lives will continue to contribute a detrimental effect if we let it. We don’t need to suffer this way. Nobody is allowed to hurt us emotionally, physically, and mentally, even if that’s our parents or any members of the family. We need to become a better person not only for ourselves but for the people around us as well.
We can’t choose our parents. However, we can decide how they should impact our lives. We can still make changes in it. It should start with the acceptance that our parents are causing us emotional and mental trauma. Therefore, we need to do something about it.