May 1, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Living With Mean Parents

There are people in our lives that always make us feel loved, safe, and respected. Those qualities are what we expect our parents would provide out of all people in the world. However, not all of our expectations reach a happy ending. That’s because some parents don’t seem to do their job correctly. As a result, some of us end up hating and not wanting them around. Most experts and psychologists would agree that our parents’ approach to bad parenting will affect our way of thinking and behaving. Therefore, the chances of damaging our overall health are at risk when we live and choose to stay with mean parents.

Too Much Toxicity

Most parents would make a lot of sacrifices for their children so that they can have a better future. Unfortunately, there are those parents that don’t seem to work that way. Sometimes, they are the ones who always ridicule, taunt, and tease their kids for no apparent reason. These parents often yell and scream at their children when they do something wrong. There is no proper disciplinary action implied in parenting. In worst cases, they even resort to physical harm sometimes, especially when they get irritated and frustrated over a small mistake. There are unfortunate instances too that they would say mean and hurtful things. These include “you’re a terrible child,” “I don’t like you,” “you’re a burden to this family,” “I don’t love you,” “I regret not aborting you,” and a lot more.

With all the toxicity inside the family, a lot of us would grow up with low self-esteem and self-worth. Yes, we often hear their excuse such as “those are just words, and you’ll eventually get over it.” Some of us would think that our parents somehow don’t mean what they say. Despite our parents saying those words over and over again, we believe them. But something inside of us knows those words mean a lot.

All the pressure, anxiety, and depression that our mean parents are giving us are unacceptable. In some cases, some of us do stupid things because of the emotional and mental damage they cause. These include cutting and inflicting self-harm. We often end up making bad decisions in life as well because we get caught up in situations we can’t handle. We are not given proper guidance and often left alone. We live in a condition where there’s no room for us to feel safe and wanted. We get trapped with all the negative things that continuously damage our overall health. That’s all because the persons who are supposed to protect, love, and care for us are the ones who inflict tormenting pain and agony.

Choose To Be Better

As children, we know we have to be thankful for our parents’ sacrifices for us. We understand that there’s no greater love than what they can offer. We know that what they do only represents their love and affection towards us. Sometimes we might feel that things are not enough or quite too much. But our parents are doing everything they can to protect us from harm. However, if their parenting style becomes hurtful instead of helpful, we need to tell them. Some would think that correcting them would be disrespectful, but we have to let them know. We need to let go of the negative influence in our lives before we end up losing everything we have. We have to stop thinking that there’s this constant need for our parents. Because we might never know, perhaps it’s them who need us.

To those some of you out there who are struggling with mean and toxic parents, you need to listen. The negative influence in our lives will continue to contribute a detrimental effect if we let it. We don’t need to suffer this way. Nobody is allowed to hurt us emotionally, physically, and mentally, even if that’s our parents or any members of the family. We need to become a better person not only for ourselves but for the people around us as well.

We can’t choose our parents. However, we can decide how they should impact our lives. We can still make changes in it. It should start with the acceptance that our parents are causing us emotional and mental trauma. Therefore, we need to do something about it.…

April 22, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Top 3 Tips From 2016 Chicago International Conference On Epilepsy And Treatment

Dealing with someone who is suffering from epilepsy can be challenging and complicated, especially when the attacks happen continually. You will start to worry about your loved one who is suffering from this disorder. At times, it can even break your heart once you find out that his epilepsy is difficult to cure. I gained my knowledge and understanding of this disease when I attended the 2016 Chicago International Conference On Epilepsy And Treatment.

 

 

During the said conference, the speakers highlighted the role that friends and family members play when it comes to dealing with someone who has epilepsy. If you have a loved one who has this disorder, then make sure that you familiarize yourself with these tips:

 

Be Patient

 

As much as possible, learn how to show your patience and understanding when it comes to dealing with the other person who has epilepsy. Keep in mind that this individual has no control with his condition. Hence, do not blame him for what happens during the epileptic attacks.

 

Seek Professional Help

 

Do not forget that it is crucial to seek the right medical assistance when it comes to this matter. Take note that epilepsy can be dangerous when not appropriately attended. As such, be sure to accompany your loved one for regular medical checkups.

 

 

Act Like Everything Is Normal

 

Are you aware that people who suffer from illnesses and diseases fell uncomfortable once they start to feel that people’s focus and attention are all directed to them? Of course, they want to feel loved and cared, but they are not interested in becoming the subject of pity. Therefore, it is best if you will avoid magnifying his medical condition. Find a way to act cool about it.

 

With your love and support, a person with epilepsy can start to feel that everything is going to get better soon.

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April 3, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

2016 New Jersey School Mental Health Conference: These Kids Need Treatment, Not Punishment

The number of young offenders in the country today is increasing exponentially. Reasons for this comes in a variety of factors – lack of parental love and support, no educational influence, peer pressure, and more which are then connected with mental health issues. But as these teens are caught up and brought in the juvenile justice system, something must be done to these detained youths. That is the topic during the 2016 New Jersey School Mental Health Conference.…

February 28, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

The Best Activities In The 2016 Houston Homeschoolers Family Fun Day

The 2016 Houston Homeschoolers Family Fun Day is one of the most amazing events that all families enjoy. Aside from the goal of strengthening each member’s relationship, it allows the unit to meet and connect with different individuals in the community as well. There are lots of activities that aim to achieve personality development, talent enhancements, as well as communication skills.

The Fun Ideas

The event considers family quality time. That’s the reason why they promote volunteering together as a unit. In this activity, everybody makes the world a better place. Parents and children can share a volunteering activity that they all agree to do. Few suggestions included are nursing home caring, the collection of food for the food bank, the organization of small community-based business expo, community clean-up, and fundraising to support non-profit organizations. Another fun idea of the event is planting. The joy of contributing something back to nature while taking the good in it gets emphasized. Parents and kids can water and harvest plants. It will not only teach kids to appreciate the value of organic produce, but they will also benefit from the nutrients it gives. There are cooking lessons too. There are also song compositions, dancing activity, movie marathons, and a lot more fun activities where both kids and parents can enjoy. There’s also a suggestion for literature and visual arts. There’s drawing and creating self-portraits projects that enhance creativity.

The emphasis on the event is not just to showcase what family’s worth is, but also the realization of how homeschooling can be beneficial for them. With this event, parents can understand the importance of time spent with their kids while they are exploring new things. Yes, attending school provides its advantages as well, but homeschooling can pose a more positive on-hand outlook in life.…

January 14, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Family Basics: Practical Tips For Parenting Teenagers

When a couple decides to start a family, their initial tendency is to read self-help books or attend parenting classes. These resources, after all, are supposed to teach first-time moms and dads how to raise a child. There’s no specific formula on how to become a perfect parent, but they should be able to keep you from committing fewer mistakes.

The thing is, it’s no secret that experts mostly talk about children up to 12 years old. Kids below that age are still heavily dependent on parents, so that’s quite understandable. Nonetheless, people do not call teenagers as young adults for the reason that they need guidance from mom and dad too. Some parents fail to do so; that’s why their children usually end up as juvenile delinquents who fear no one.

Considering you don’t want to see your adolescent kids blossom into responsible adults – and never go behind bars – here are a few practical parenting tips for you.

1. Establish Your Role At Home

The first thing you should do is to make your role known in the house. It is too vague to say that you are the mom or the dad, to be honest. Kids can tell which is which based on the gender, but they do not have a predisposed idea of what to expect from you. Thus, you ought to go out of your way to help them realize that you are someone who will tell them when they are wrong, praise them when they something great, and hear them out when they need a listener. That is one of the easiest ways to ensure that none of the children will cross their boundaries.

2. Encourage Openness Within The Family

While kids may have the right to own something, it is not advisable to give them a computer, tablet, or smartphone before they reach the age of 18. The reason is that having such mobile gadgets gives them access to various information, which may or may not be good for them. If the teens need to use the PC, they should only use it in the living room. If they want to talk to a friend or anyone else, it should not be hidden to the family, especially to the parents. It is essential to practice openness from early childhood so that they won’t feel odd about it later.

3. Update Your House Rules

Keep in mind that the regulations that you impose on a seven-year-old kid are most likely inapplicable to a 15-year-old teen. Whereas the former’s classes end around three in the afternoon, the latter might have extra lessons to take after that. Teenagers usually have extracurricular activities too, which they cannot say no to all the time. Because of that, you should be open to updating your house rules every time your kid reaches a new milestone.

4. Avoid Living Through Your Kids

Although it seems reasonable to hear parents talk about their dreams for their children, you should not force your dream to them. Many folks do the opposite of that, in which they push the kids to become, say, a doctor or basketball player even if that’s not what the youngsters want. That can result in your children either developing depression or learning how to lie.

5. Eat At Least One Meal Together Daily

It should also be one of your main priorities to eat breakfast, lunch or dinner with your family members as much as possible. Some parents forget to do that, claiming that they are busy working to provide their kids’ financial needs. The latter, therefore, get used to eating by themselves or with a nanny. If you don’t do anything about it, they will eventually grow emotionally apart from you and may never listen to you.

6. Offer Help Even If The Kids Don’t Ask For It

Another thing that you can do is to keep on offering assistance to your children. When kids become teenagers, you see, they feel too timid to ask for help, regardless if it comes to completing school projects or dealing with other problems. The task is much harder for youngsters who are not close to their mom and dad. Hence, as the parent, you should develop a habit of offering help even when the kids already say that they can do something on their own.

7. Learn To Make Compromises

Lastly, remember that teenagers do not respond well to regulations that make them feel like kids. These kids think they are as entitled to doing what they want as the adults; that’s why they may not be too agreeable with everything you say. Instead of reprimanding them, however, you should learn to listen to their opinion and come up with an agreement that’s suitable for both of you. This way, both parties will be happy.

Final Thoughts

A teenager won’t stray in a dark, rocky path if they know that they have parents to count on to at any time. Talk to them; listen to whatever they need you to hear. Don’t give up on them too, no matter how rebellious they get.

Try not to forget the parenting tips mentioned above. Good luck!…

November 6, 2018 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Psychology 101: Why Do Young People Commit Theft?

Parents and older members of the community work hand in hand to become the best role models for the children. They – the kids – are excellent imitators, after all. In case they are often around good Samaritans, they may end up volunteering a lot. Consequently, if these youngsters often hear someone cuss from birth, they think it’s acceptable and may start cursing like a sailor regardless of who they are speaking with now.

One of the activities that adults can never teach kids – whether consciously or unconsciously – is stealing. The teachers at school and the parents at home tell them that it’s better to ask for something than to take it without permission. Still, many young people get sent to the juvenile detention facilities because of theft.

Psychology experts say that there are a few reasons why they think of stealing instead of enjoying their childhood. Some of them include:

1. Peer Pressure

One of the most typical causes of thieving is the bad influence. For instance, a nerdy child wants to become a part of a little gang of famous students from the school. The latter, however, decided that it would be fun to coax him or her to steal Starbursts at a 7-Eleven store before he or she could join the group. Out of desperation to fit in, the poor kid might do it against their better judgment. According to  Brett Laursen, PsyD, “If we define peer- pressure as essentially, influence, then I think we can see that peer pressure begins very early on. But, it’s not often the way that parents and adults think of it. You have explicit peer pressure and you have implicit peer pressure”

2. Depression

Many young and old children tend to stop following rules when depressed. If you tell them to turn right, they go left. In their head, they are forever doomed; they do not have a future ahead of them. That’s why getting caught or, worse, having a police record for stealing means nothing to them. Based on the statement of Beth Patterson, LPC, ““I see a mix of depression and anxiety. They’re really closely related. The same brain chemicals are involved.”

3. Neglect

Some youngsters opt to become a thief as well in hopes of getting the attention of their busy parents. They are likely aware that it is highly unacceptable in the eyes of the law, yet they do so to have their mom or dad stop what they are doing and focus on them. Even if it entails that the store where they stole something might charge them with theft, that is.

4. Loss

Losing something or someone makes some children feel like there is a hole they need to fill in their system. While others do it by finding new friends or picking up a hobby, some falsely believe that they will be okay after managing to steal somewhere. That often results in plenty of repercussions, of course.

5. Kleptomania

Unfortunately, there are a few young people who were born with a type of mania that allows them to commit theft. Although they are aware of how lousy stealing is, they cannot resist the magnetism of getting anything from candy to a pair of shoes without paying for them. Their mental disorder says that it’s fun; hence, it may be difficult to cull this habit.

6. Poverty

Coming from a low-income family and not being able to buy new stuff is not enough validation for committing theft, that is true. Sadly, some children think that that is the only way for them to have what kids who hail from well-off parents have. They stop thinking about what’s right or wrong at that moment; they merely go for it and hope for the best.

In Conclusion

Becoming a thief is not innate in every human being. Circumstances and, in a few cases, mental health illnesses push people, especially the young ones, to go against the law. Instead of condemning for their actions, though, it is best to discipline them and teach them how to behave well. If you want your kid to get things done, you can start introducing the concept of list to them. According to Katie Greenleaf M.A., LPCC, “Basically, lists are an extension of our good processing. When we have good executive function, we’ve developed the processing required to actually execute lists because we can think through the scenario that demanded the need for the list in the first place.”…

October 4, 2018 Off By Marie Miguel

10 Best Ways To Take Care Of Your Child In Case Of Panic Attack

According to Dr. Bubrich, a clinical psychologist working at the Child Mind Institute, panic attacks involve a sudden outburst of uncomfortable symptoms, including but not limited to, abnormally fast-paced heartbeat, excessive sweating, trembling, dizziness, and nausea. Celeste Viciere, LMHC also aid “panic attacks can be tricky: when people describe a panic attack to her, they often say: “It felt like I was having a heart attack, and I couldn’t breathe.”

As parents, it is one thing to accept that our child experiences this and it is a different thing actually to deal with panic attacks together with your child. Here are 10 of the best ways to care for your child in case of these unwanted attacks:

  1. Pay Attention To The Details

 Once you start seeing the symptoms of a panic attack on your child, pay attention. Do not dismiss it as just another episode, much less think of it as little drama. Anxiety is real, and it is taking a toll on the lives of many people – elders and teenagers alike. Remember the advice of Scott Fantucchio, LMHC, he said “I believe that it’s always better and easier to replace negative behaviors with positive ones rather than just trying to stop negative behaviors.”

  1. Familiarize Yourself With Attacks

If this is not the first time that your child experienced a panic attack, you should already be familiar with his responses. Take note of his symptoms as well as the most immediate cure for the first-aid to be almost second nature to you already.

  1. Be Patient And Supportive

Panic attacks do not have a standard running time. The attack may be quick, or it may take time, depending on your child and the gravity of the trigger. Throughout the entire process, stick by your child’s side and keep comforting him. Never judge too quickly.

  1. Be Open About Panic Attacks

Especially when you are living in a home with other people, do not be ashamed that your child may be experiencing panic attacks. It pays to receive support from other people as well – not only your family members but also from the school and medical professionals.

  1. Do Not Panic Yourself – Relax

While it is understandable that as a parent, you might be caught in the moment also and not know what to do with your child, do not panic. Your child would need to draw strength and peace from you. Stay calm and talk to your child in a relaxed manner. According to Masha Shapiro-Berkovich, MSEd, LMHC, “Wherever you are, stay put—do not flee. While escaping may seem like a helpful short-term solution, it only creates more problems.”

  1. Practice Breathing Exercises

Induce proper breathing in your child by telling him to breathe in and then breathe out. Do this breathing exercise for several minutes and let your child take his time. You can also hug him or hold his hand or help him mirror your breathing so he can slow down.

  1. Give Assurance To Your Child

Never forget the words of assurance. Tell your kid that everything will be okay, that there’s nothing to worry about, and that things will get better if they believe. Encourage them with positivity and create an atmosphere that rebuilds trust and confidence.

  1. Provide Healthy Disruptions

Depending on your child’s coping mechanism, you may introduce distractions that would take your child’s focus away from the trigger of the panic attack. This coping mechanism may be in the form of looking at the greens outside, listening to music, or reading a book.

  1. Be Ready With Medication

In case your kid needs to take medications to manage the effects of a panic attack, be ready with these too. For instance, there are antidepressants called Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors which make the body’s alarm system less reactive.

  1. Know When To Seek Assistance

While it may be rare, there are still instances when external help might be warranted such as when the panic attack won’t go away even after a long while. Be ready with the contact number of the nearest hospital and ask help from professionals.

As parents, we are here to guide our children through these episodes and vow to support them all the way until they can overcome their anxiety disorder. Be encouraged by the fact that panic attacks always come to an end and they, like any other disorders, can be overcome.

 

 

 

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April 9, 2018 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Texting While Driving = Drunk Driving?

PHOTOS WILL NOT UPLOAD

How to Legally Classify Texting While Driving

Accidents that are a result of someone texting while driving has the same outcomes as those that are a result of someone driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Why, then, do defendants not receive the same legal repercussions? This article examines the potential consequences of texting while driving and how the American law treats it.

March 10, 2018 Off By Dennis Rhodes

How to Deal with a Troubled Teen

When children reach the adolescent stage, they are prone to self-destructive behaviors as they become more desperate to show that they are in control by acting like they know everything despite their lack of experience. Their desire to fit in provokes them to do the unthinkable just to gain approval from their peers. During this stage is where they need the guidance of their parents the most.

January 21, 2018 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Ways Of Fraud And How To Prevent Becoming A Victim

With the never-ending improvement in technology, the strategy of thieves also evolved. Before robbery and theft are straightforward, some would pickpocket and grab your cash or cell phone then dash away. More desperate ones would use a deadly weapon to scare you. However, these past decades, the world has seen a digital form of theft.

A 2017 study conducted by Javelin Strategy and Research found out that roughly 15.4 million of US consumers are victims of identity theft in one way or another, with a total estimate of 16 billion money loss to identity theft. These figures are steadily increasing yearly. The most effective route in order not to find ourselves as a victim to the ever famous identity theft is in fact, learning about the different ways the fraudsters were able to retrieve personal information and ways to prevent such.

Phishing

Generating misleading emails that manipulate people to type in their confidential information usually it is pretending to be from a legitimate bank, health institution, credit card company, etc.

Smishing

The idea of the modus operandi is the same with phishing, but it is done through text messaging. This scam is becoming popular since more people are using their phones to access their bank accounts and credit cards. The text may resemble that of a financial institution asking for PIN number or email account password. Also, text messages might be sent as a personal message from someone to open their social media accounts. Upon clicking the URL, the software will retrieve your data.

Source: blog.nskinc.com

Wardriving

Hacking into wireless networks and installing spyware. Wardriving would allow access to IP addresses, used devices and devices activity including usernames, password, and personal information. 

Keylogging

It is a software installed by the hacker or a virus that records every keystroke done on a computer which can be utilized to gather data such as passwords, usernames, and social security information.

Skimming

Installation of the devices in ATM and gas pump card slots that will store credit/debit card information.

Companies

Hackers target large corporations and businesses databases to pull out stored financial or personal information of their customers and clients.

PREVENTION TIPS

  • Cover your keypad when entering your pin number in the ATM
  • Turn the card reader away from prying eyes
  • If someone seems too nosy or moves to close to you, leave and try accessing your account elsewhere.
  • Make sure that website where you enter your data information is a secure site. The address is in their URL https:// and http://. The “s” means that the site is safe and encrypted.
  • A secure site will have a closed padlock next to the domain name
  • Do not click on any attachments in emails with unknown senders
  • Utilize trusted browsers with phishing protection. This includes Firefox, Google Chrome, Internet Explorer and Edge.
  • Be cautious with sites that have a pop-up and annoying advertisement.
  • Be suspicious if someone is calling out of the blue and asks for your personal information.
  • Avoid any special promotions and offer that is for a limited time and requires you to give out pertinent information.
  • Check the email address from reputable companies. The domain name should be that of the corporation’s name.

If ever you have been a victim in any of these fraudulent activities and you need psychological support, possibly from a therapist online, is a good site that provides counseling services.…