December 20, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

What Kind Of Parent Calls The Police On Their Child? Part 2

 

 

Do you want an honest answer to that question? What do you think prompts some parents to call the authorities on their crazy, vicious and crime-prone kids? If their lives are at stake, if they see their violent child is insane, and if their other children are going to get hurt, then, IT IS UNDERSTANDABLE TO CALL THE POLICE ON YOUR TROUBLED TEEN. It’s not your fault that they are like that, and so don’t blame yourself.

 

I heard a story from my mother years ago about her co-worker. The woman divorced her husband because he called the police on the 16-year-old daughter. You ask, what did the daughter do, right? Well, she beat up her 14-year-old brother who was in the spectrum. The boy had autism. It was bad.

 

The whole situation was disheartening. No wonder the parents saw it fit divorce. But was it the right thing to do? What about their daughter? The abused son was hurting too, was he not? And he has autism too. He needed help. It’s just so messed up and I wouldn’t dream of it happening to our family.

 

 

Phoning The Police Should Be The Last Option.

Calling the authorities should be a parent’s last option when their child is violent and destructive. They should try to settle the situation first since they are the best people who can deal with their child’s bad behavior. But when it goes out of hand, like physical violence and mouthing threats, police intervention is necessary.

 

The 911 dispatch receives numerous distress calls involving parent-child conflicts. It is often that the aggressor is the child who is suffering from mental health disorders like depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, PTSD, or drug and alcohol abuse. In cases like this, instead of sending the child to prison, the accused teen will be admitted to a mental institution.

 

It is also true that if the offenders are below 18 years old, they will be sent to mental health institutions instead. But whatever the reason may be for the distress call, most parents regret doing so afterward. You should not regret it because sending your child to jail or a psychiatric facility will shape him up. Well, most of them get a second chance in life, at least.

 

Youth Services: 50% Of The Kids Are Angry, While The Other 50 Is Grateful

Most of the kids who were taken away by the police felt resentment towards their parents. This leads to the strained relationship between the parent and the child. They are initially scared of what will happen to them, and then they feel abandoned afterward. The kids will also develop feelings of hatred towards their parents. They are excluding the fact that they have become harmful not only to themselves but to others as well.

 

However, there are also other kids who appreciate their parents’ actions in the end. These are the kids who saw the positive result of their parent’s sacrifices by sending them to jail.

 

How To Prevent This From Happening

To avoid this heartbreaking scenario, here are some things to remember:

If you are witnessing borderline mood swings from your child, then it is best that you act on it immediately. Contact mental health experts if you have a suspicion that your child is experiencing psychological problems.

 

 

hat to Do If You Need To Call The Police:

  • Stay calm and provide important facts to the 911 dispatcher.
  • Be specific. Tell the dispatcher if your child needs mental health care services.
  • Make sure that you tell the dispatcher everything before the authorities arrive at the scene.

 

Once the authorities arrive, brief the officer of what happened. Include all details such as if the child is taking medications. You can also ask some tips on how to control the kid in severe situations. Make sure that you know the arresting officer’s name.

 

Calling the police on your child is very hard. But things are needed to be done for the betterment of everybody. The process is not easy at all, but you need to protect yourself and your family. The people around you must be protected from your violent child as well.

 

If having a troubled child will cause issues in your marriage, then it’s something that you and your spouse need to discuss. Divorcing at a time like this will not help everyone in the family. Maybe, for the time being, it would be best to maintain a unified front until such time when the child is stable. By then, you can talk about pushing through with the divorce or not.…

December 13, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

What Kind Of Parent Calls The Police On Their Child? Part 1

 

 

Parents calling the authorities to have their kids arrested is entirely off. Sending their most precious child away to jail is something most parents would never do. However, such violent incidents are already taking their toll. With what the teens are capable of doing these days, it’s not a wonder if they’ll become criminals when they grow older.

 

It is never easy, but your kid’s destructive behavior has reached the limits. Soon enough, he will put other people’s lives at risk if you don’t do something about it. Well, some parents did the unbearable. Below are stories of families who called the police and had their child arrested.

 

Did it break up their marriage? It almost did, but it’s not about them. The whole issue is about their troubled child.

 

 

Jane and Michael Smith – Bullying Can Turn A Happy Child To A Troubled Teen

Michael Smith was once a happy child. But the conflict started when some kids at his school started bullying him. Since then, he changed into a temperamental boy who is often moody and angry. He started hanging out with the wrong crowd and later, breaking the rules in school and at home.

 

The calling of the authorities came about when Michael was so enraged with his mother for not allowing his friends to visit. The boy punched holes on their walls which alarmed Jane. Police did not arrest him, but the visit served as a warning.

 

After that incident, Michael ran away. Days later Jane received news that Michael was arrested for a gun pellet incident. He was released on bail. After that disgraceful event, another situation occurred. Michael was requested to attend a family occasion which he didn’t like. He got so angry and attempted to hurt his mother. Jane called 911, and the authorities came.

 

At that time, Michael was furious with his mother that he declared that he wouldn’t talk to her as long as he lives. As a consequence of his action, he was sentenced to an open-custody institution for several months.

 

Now, the worst is over. Michael is back for good behavior and has already graduated high school. He has a girlfriend and a stable job. All his mother’s pain and sacrifice finally paid off. Michael is grateful.

 

Sue and John Clark –Chronic Anxiety Disorder Makes A Teen Problematic

John, for some reason, turned into a bitter and angry child. He’s always fighting with his brother, refuses to go to school and is keeping everyone on their toes at night. The teen was then diagnosed with a chronic anxiety disorder. His family sought help from a child psychologist, but to no avail, since the said therapist was fully booked. A crisis worker once suggested that John should be locked up in a psychiatric facility for treatment, but the family refused to comply.

 

It was until one morning when Sue finally gave up. John threatened his mother who was about to leave the house for work that day. The teen said he would trash the house down once she steps out. Sue, feeling scared and trapped, called the authorities.

 

Sue felt guilty for her actions, but something had to be done. What she did was the best decision she ever made. Now, John is back to school and undergoing therapy.

 

Tony and Joe Hill – An Autoimmune Disease Affects A Teen’s Mental Health

At 16, Joe was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that affected his nervous system. His mental ability decreased significantly, as well. With this, he stopped attending his classes, was angry all the time, and also taking drugs. Joe became a slob too and didn’t take a bath most days. One day, Tony (Joe’s father), had to call 911 because of his wrongdoings.

 

The authorities were called to assist in an incident that took place during a family event. Joe cut himself in front of his siblings, and because of what happened, he was confined in a hospital instead of in jail.

 

 

Similar incidents happened after that and Tony reports his son whenever he gets out of control. The police would put him in jail wherein Joe would hurt himself while confined in bars. It was sad.

 

Joe was in and out of rehabilitation centers and psychiatric institutions. With the lack of facilities and equipment, his treatment was always cut short. He was also denied housing because of his behavior.…

December 6, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Contributing To The Delinquency Of A Minor (Can Break Up A Marriage) 

Contributing to the delinquency of a minor (CDM) is a crime charged to an adult tolerating or encouraging a minor to do a criminal act. The person is a minor if he is below 18 years old. The crime committed by the minor is part of “juvenile delinquency,” and since the person who committed the crime is underage, the case will be handled by a separate criminal justice system for minors. 

 

 

November 15, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

The Truth About “Rebellious” Behavior

We’ve all seen it in the movies or on TV. “It’s just a phase.” The rebellious teenager is screaming at their parents, coming home late, and raising all types of hell. Coming from a rocky childhood, I was quite the troublesome teenager myself.

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Regardless, I managed to get my life and relationships together since then. It still doesn’t change the fact that I did go through a lot of problems; problems that may not have been so bad if the adults around me understood me better and if I knew how to communicate with them properly. Allow me to share some of my experiences. Here are some things that supposed “troubled teens” are trying to tell you.

Programs aren’t Always Well-Meaning

All over the world, there’s some form of a program intended to “fix” the behavior of rebellious teenagers. While it may seem well-meaning at first, many of them are not strictly regulated. Some camps and programs end up not helping the child at all.

Some of them enforce stricter-than-necessary rules. Some aren’t even equipped for medical or health emergencies that may come up. Others may lack genuine compassion and empathy to connect with children in the camp properly. While it may sound good on paper, not many of us seem to have enjoyed our experience really, nor did we learn much from it.

We Need You to Listen

Often, the reason we act out is that we feel like you’re mistreating us. Admittedly, there are times where we’re in the wrong. There are times when we refuse to believe that we’re wrong. However, there are also times when we feel like some compromise could have at least been made.

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Many of us feel as if we’re being cuddled too much; treated like children. We feel like it’s us vs. you, instead of all of us being on the same side. We’re not asking that you let us do whatever we want, but sometimes, maybe something can be worked out. Good communication is key.

Moreover, there are times when we need you to listen even if we don’t say anything. What I mean is we aren’t always the best in expressing ourselves – we’re still learning. There are going to be times that we need you to kind of feel out what we’re thinking and feeling. We need to know that you’re there for us, even when we mess up.

We Take it Out on Ourselves Too

I’m not sure if this is something everyone goes through. However, a lot of the teens I’ve met and stayed with all have this in common. When parents or guardians call us out for our behavior, we might show anger and rebellion to them.

Likewise, we also take it out on ourselves. Instead of finding a way to solve whatever issues we may have, we tend to fixate on ourselves being wrong or not good enough. When talking to your teens about something they might have done wrong, try to talk to them calmly. Remind them that making mistakes is okay, but that we also have to be held accountable for them. Do this constructively, not spitefully.

It’s Partially Biological

If you try hard to think back, I’m sure you had a somewhat “rebellious phase” too. Whether you acted on the urges you had or not, you still had the calls. Some researchers have shown that this may have a biological aspect to it. Hormones are at high levels.

Similarly, teens are taught to be more productive later in the day, rather than early in the morning. Being forced to get up soon and go to school may add to us being irritable.…

November 8, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Warning Signs Of A Child With A Criminal Mind, A Psychiatrist Reveals

 

 

It is quite reasonable for a very young child to have an attitude. The whole thing is called the rebellion phase. It is during this phase wherein the child contradicts your rules and will reason out with you. But when this behavior becomes consistent and is already causing troubles within your home, it should not be taken for granted.

Several factors can affect a child’s behavior and even his outlook on life. Thus, parents should be cautious about what they say and how they act around and to their children. Little acts may be traumatic, and a child can develop mental health issues like a psychotic break or manifest a criminal mind. He can also develop obsessive-compulsive disorder or OCD which is “a mental health disorder consisting of obsessions (unwanted, intrusive, distressing thoughts) and/or compulsions (repetitive behaviors or actions in order to eliminate the distress surrounding the obsession) according to Amanda Petrik, LCPC, RPT-S.

The common factors to this kind of behavior are as follows: being exposed to a criminal environment, being bullied in school, poor self-perception and more. It is vital that you know the red flags of a child with criminal instincts. Some of these warning signs were stated by Dr. Dennis Embry of the Paxis Institute published by CNN.

 

 

 Brain Development

Professionals believe that having an underdeveloped brain, like the prefrontal cortex and amygdala, can lead someone to develop criminal instincts.

 

Outbursts Of Anger

A child having extreme anger problems is also a sign. This anger is in the form of outbursts that vary from time to time. According to Michelle Roya Rad, MA, PsyD, “When anger happens, it is the amygdala that is experiencing it, which is a small structure within the limbic system. The limbic system is the center of the emotional brain and is in the lower area of the brain and is considered more primitive.”

 

Acts Of Defiance

Being unreasonably defiant is indeed abnormal. Once taken for granted, the child can have mental and emotional problems. It can be a result of unexpressed anger. Based on the findings of Kathryn Moore, PsyD, “Depression and anxiety are examples of unexpressed anger because anger turned inward often results in self-hatred.”

 

No Concept Of Fear

Kids who are entirely not afraid of a danger potentially have this criminal streak in them. Violent criminals, according to studies, have difficulty in determining a possible hazard that is why they have the guts to do something so fatal and drastic.

 

No Empathy Towards Others

Being inconsiderate of other’s feelings may lead to not caring for other people. Children with such behavior can adopt this and will do harmful things because they are unable to identify the act of hurting others.

 

Violent Towards Peers

Many studies revealed that being violent is a sure indicator that a child has mental health issues. Once this problem is brushed off by the parents, it can elevate into much higher aggression which can potentially lead to criminal doings.

 

Violence Towards Animals

Kids with the said indicators are found to be violent towards animals. Since they have no remorse for doing bad things to other people, it is then expected that they do the same with animals.

 

History Of Being Bullied

A child that is being bullied will develop low self-esteem, low self-perception, and low social skills. They also have this suppressed anger on the kids who bullied them. Once this anger is untreated, it can develop into a more profound emotional pain which can lead one into an uncontrollable rage coupled with a psychiatric problem.

 

Unable To Communicate

According to studies, people with this issue have difficulty when it comes to communicating. They have speech disorders and usually get messages wrong.

 

Social Withdrawal And Depression

Depression is a silent killer. Kids with this condition can hurt themselves and the people around them. Randy Withers, LPC said “Depression can be uncomfortable and frustrating, but if left untreated can also be dangerous.”

 

Fascination With Weapons

Weapons like guns, knives, bombs and the likes are the standard tools used by criminals when they break the law. Thus, kids being obsessed with them are inclined to use the real ones when given a chance.

 

Interest With Fire

Getting interested in a fire, how it starts and spreads – for no reason – is indeed alarming. Such will give your child an idea of how to use it that can hurt other people.

 

Bedwetting

Bedwetting means that your child has experienced something traumatic. Once this trauma is not dealt with, it can lead to that aggressive feeling of committing a crime.

 

Making Threats

Making severe threats is not healthy for a child. You need to take it seriously, or else the child will have that thinking that it is okay to threaten anyone and maybe do it one day for real.

 

Pathological Lying

Consistent lying is usually linked to psychiatric disorders, and these mental health issues are present in people who have done something heinous. Thus, if your child is fond of telling lies, it is best to get to the bottom of it fast.

 

 

Getting Help

Once you cannot control your child anymore and you have sought professional help from a psychiatrist, then you know that your child is in big trouble. In cases like this, you need to listen carefully to what your doctor has to say to help your child get out of the “potential criminal” situation.

Having criminal indicators is indeed alarming. That’s why it is best that you address this issue head-on and get professional help for your child at once. It will not only save your child but others as well.…

September 2, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

What You Need To Know About Identity Theft

We know how to secure our physical valuables, such as our money and gadgets. However, many of us don’t know how to protect something more important: our identity. In the US alone, identity theft affected more than 16 million people in 2017. These people collectively lost more than 16 million dollars, and that doesn’t include intangible costs, such as damaged reputations and lost time. Indeed, identity theft can sometimes be worse than physical robbery, so you need to make adequate preparations for it.

Identity theft can be a confusing matter to understand. Why would someone claim to be you, and how do criminals do it? Learning more about this brand of crime will help you prevent yourself from being an easy target by these criminals. As long as you follow the best practices for avoiding this type of theft, you can rest assured that your identity will remain secure for years to come.

Stealing Someone’s Identity

You might be wondering: why would someone impersonate you? As a productive citizen, you already have precious assets such as social security benefits or the salary from your employer. You have access to one or more bank accounts, many of which hold substantial amounts of money. You also have friends and acquaintances that have their valuable assets. Someone who pretends to be you can seize all of these.

Impersonation can take one of many forms. For instance, thieves can intercept your connection when you access the Internet through an unsecured connection, such as public Wi-Fi spots. When you try to access banking sites or log into social media accounts, they can retrieve your credentials and use them to access your accounts. They can withdraw your money, lock you out of your accounts, and use your online persona to trick more people.

Another common technique used by identity criminals is phishing. They can create websites that look like login pages for legitimate sites. When you enter your credentials, you’re left with a useless site while they get to steal your data. Other digital forms of theft include sending you emails laden with malware, which scours your device for passwords and other private data. 

Less sophisticated approaches also exist. Some criminals will sift through your garbage for documents from which they can glean information, such as credit card billings or tax forms. Sometimes, they can use public data about yourself, such as your home address or phone number, to gain access to your other accounts. This method is possible because many security questions ask for personal information that they can obtain, such as your mother’s name.

Identity theft can cost you a fortune, damage your credit score, and ruin relationships. Even when reported, it can take years to reverse the worst effects. Hence, prevention is of utmost importance.

Protecting Your Identity

One quick way to prevent identity theft is to limit the amount of personal information that you share online. When creating new accounts, use the least amount of information you can. Don’t share sensitive information such as your birthdate, complete home address, or phone numbers.

You should also secure the login credentials you use. Activate two-factor authentication whenever you can to make it harder to access your accounts. Use a secure network for your connections. Use long, alphanumeric passwords, and use a password manager to keep them safe. Finally, shred any physical documents before disposing of them.

Always remember that your identity is one of your most precious belonging. Protect it at all costs.

August 26, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Ways To Discipline Your Child When Caught Cheating In School

No parent desires to be called by the principal due to cheating. However, this is common in the school setting. While your kid’s offense may upset you, you still have to think of strategies on how to discipline your child to avoid problems like this in the future. Hence, here are some ways for parents to remedy the situation.

Listen To All Sides

As a parent, you might have the instinct to defend your child from the student or teacher who accused your child of cheating. However, this should not be the case. You should be neutral in these cases and seek the stories of all those who are involved.

The best way to start this is to set a meeting with the educators alongside your child. Ask for their version of the story. How did the teacher know of the cheating? What’s the story behind the classmate’s accusation? If you cannot understand what they are saying, calmly ask for clarification and patiently listen.

You also have to understand that cheating nowadays goes beyond looking at someone’s paper or copying their classmate’s homework. The rise of the digital age also gave way to more sophisticated means of doing this act. Some examples of this include wearing smartwatches with answers on them or hacking the principal’s computer to have access to the tests. With this in mind, you should always be open when listening to all of their accounts.

Give Out Punishments

Once you have verified that they indeed cheated, you have to hold them accountable for it and punish them for their wrongdoing. However, it is essential to tailor the consequences depending on the gravity of their situation. For example, his or her punishment for copying homework must be lesser than for cheating on an exam.

Some disciplinary actions include the following:

  • Welcome school consequences. If the teacher decides to give him detention or a zero on his paper, let them be. Do not stick up for your child since this might only give him the idea that cheating is acceptable for you.
  • Encourage him to apologize. He should make amends to those people involved. It may be with his classmate he copied his answers from or to the teacher whom he tricked.
  • Create a schoolwork plan. As a parent, you should also help your child cope with the stresses of school. To avoid copying and cheating, you can create a plan for schoolwork. It ensures that he does his homework or reads his assigned readings. The program can include establishing a fixed study time in the house, reading several pages of a book every day, or assigning a tutor for your child.

Find The Reason For Cheating

There is most likely a reason why your child resorted to cheating. It can be because he or she sees older people cheat, there’s too much academic pressure, or his friends force him or her to commit the offense. Whatever it is, you have to pinpoint the exact reason why to be able to address the root of his or her dishonesty.

Always remember that you should send the message that cheating is unacceptable. Do not focus on what punishments to give to your child. If they don’t fully grasp the importance of honesty, they will most likely repeat this act in the future.…

August 19, 2019 Off By Dennis Rhodes

Top Alternatives To School Detention

Most educators see school detention as ineffective and a waste of time. Admit it: this punishment does not instantly fix a student’s attitude. It then leads them to become repeat offenders in the following weeks. Reading boring books and staring at walls might not do the job, but there are other alternatives to the traditional school detention. Let us explore them one by one.

Lunch Workshop

Administrators can hire a counselor and meet these challenging students once a week for their lunch workshop. They are required to report to the counselor’s office without having to worry about their lunch. The office serves lunch so students won’t use the long lines in the cafeteria as an excuse to skip the sessions.

The counselor will then run a series of workshops tackling various character development issues. These include developing a positive vibe, having a growth mindset, attending support groups, or overcoming school stressors. The students should be able to connect to the chosen topics, and the one leading the discussion should be genuine to make the sessions as productive as possible.

After the mini-workshops, the counselor gives the floor to the student. It can be a safe space for him or her to share some of the struggles he or she faces. This practice will help build trust and connection with one another.

Mindful Moment Room

Instead of sending the naughty kids to a bland classroom, why not cure their disruptive behavior in a room with pillows, blankets, lamps, and decorations called the Mindful Moment Room. This place can be a space for the students to go through various types of meditation to calm them down.

Research shows that meditation positively affects both the body and mind. It enhances an individual’s patience, focus, attention span, and attitude.

Robert Coleman Elementary already practices this after-school program, and they were able to reap its benefits in just a short amount of time. According to the school administrators, the suspension rates dropped, class attendance increased, and test scores were at its highest in the past year.

Reflection Papers

If a student has a record of misbehaving all the time, the teacher may opt to place them in a quiet room and have them write a reflection paper. You can assign topics that you think they can relate to. After they write it, make sure to talk to them about their piece and engage a conversation with them.

This approach can also be the best strategy for you to know why a student is acting up. Once you know his or her struggles, it will be easier for you to create a tailored action plan.

Community Service

Rather than cooping the student in a hole, why not let him or her engage in community service? Your school can partner with several non-governmental organizations (NGOs) where they can lend their time. These include nursing homes, orphanage, environmental groups, and many more. Exposing these individuals to good deeds might help them reassess their lives and change for the better.

Do not expect students to change their troubling behaviors by placing them in a small classroom. The goal of detention is to let the students be accountable for their mistakes, reflect on these shortcomings, and improve their behavior. The four alternatives mentioned above could be the way to attain these.…